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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    First, i have not been on a real vacation in over FIVE years. things like money, time, and switching jobs have stopped me from going. I finally booked a cruise with my FH for the end of january to the bahamas! It was booked back in june. i have been counting down to it, losing weight in preparation for it, and its really been the highlight of my year. yay right?

    Well my FH has been going through testing for a promotion at work. and stage by stage he has passed with flying colors. the list came out and BAM! he got the promotion. yay again right?

    not so fast, says fate. Hes gotta take mandatory training that is a week long... you guessed it, THE WEEK OF OUR CRUISE.

    so while i am super happy that he got his promotion, and the extra $$ it will bring in, i am SUPER depressed that my first vacation (that has already been paid for by the way) is now ruined. I mean i could go by myself without him, but the whole point is that we were gonna go together. and he could just not go to the mandatory training, but thats not too smart to forfeit the promotion.

    i hate hate hate his job, and i really hate the fact that just when things start to look up i get gut punched with crap like this.

    i just feel like crying non stop right now but trying to be positive for FH since i know hes not happy about this either.

    thanks for letting me vent...

     
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    toothfairyb    September 4, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    Can you switch the week of the cruise? Often cruise lines let you switch, maybe for a slight fee. It would be better than going alone! 

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    I am so sorry about your trip but Congrats to your FI!!!!!!

    Did you have trip cancellation insurance? Can you talk to the cruise line and see if you can transfer the trip to another date?

    If not could you go on the trip with a close GF - I know it's not ideal but at least the money won't be wasted!?!??!

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I'm sorry that happened.  Can you switch the date of the cruise?  Or if not, do you have a friend or close family member that you could take with you so that you can still get some downtime?

    Just try and look on the bright side that now he is going to be making more and you two can go on a trip together later, like a great honeymoon.

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    Sorry it double posted.

     
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    spaganya    September 4, 2010   Arlington, VA/wedding in Williamsburg, VA

    we had planned on taking this cruise with one of my best friends and her bf - so its kinda ruining it for them too - and this cruise was special because its a group cruise, they ahve all these activities planned like bar crawls and competitions on board for the group. so yeah we can move it to another week, but its not gonna be the same by any stretch of the imagination.

    i am still praying that by some miracle he can take the mandatory course at a later date. or that one of the other dudes on the list also has something that conflicts with the dates that they chose so maybe they can move the training. otherwise we will have to move the vacation because i really dont want to go without my FH. the whole point was to have us time away from work home etc.

    such a bummer. i know things will work out fine in the end, and eventually i will get to take a vacation too. its just this is the 4th time i have planned a vacation and something got screwed up with it (the first was a trip to vegas with girlfriends, and i ended up having my debit card stolen and my $$ drained about a week before the cruise so while i got it back , i wasnt able to go, and twice i planned a trip to ireland, both of which were cancelled due to me being diagnosed with cancer and having to go into surgery, and now this...)

    sometimes i think God doesnt want me to take a vacation or relax. kinda freaks me out about the wedding too - since its always with things i plan ahead for that get screwed up... whats next?!

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    no advise ((HUGS)) i would try to switch the cruise, it could definitely be romantic with the two of you...

     

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