Post # 1
I am getting married at my fiance’s family farm, in an outdoor ceremony. The ceremony is going to be out in the open, away from any buildings. It is also going to be fairly casual.
Is it crazy not to walk down an aisle? I am considering just being out mingling with the guests before the ceremony.
Post # 3
It’s definitely different, but everyone is doing something different now! It’s your wedding so if that’s what you feel like doing, then do it. (But be prepared for people to be shocked that you’re not “walking down the aisle” haha). Make sure your happy with the end result – that’s all that matters.
Post # 4
So you mean you want to be mingling with your guests while your soon to be husband is waiting for you at the altar? Then decide when the time is right to join him?
Or do you just mean there is no surprise or big reveal parading down towards the ceremony location?
Regardless, do what feels right! Theres no wrong way to have a wedding-make it yours and unique to what you love.
Post # 5
@Eva Peron: i would imagine they are both mingling before hte ceremony is scheduled to start. then the officiant would come and announce that everyone take their seats and you and your adn FI head to the altar for the ceremony. sounds fine to me!
Post # 6
Very close friends of mine had a wedding like yours recently! It was on the groom’s parent’s farm, with a tent, and everyone (including the bride and groom) were just mingling and having a drink before the ceremony. When it was time to have the ceremony, the bride and groom just sort of yelled “Alright everyone, let’s go do this!” and we all followed them down to the ceremony location. No muss no fuss. It was terrific and perfect to their style and personalities! Everyone appreciated how low key the whole day was 🙂
Post # 7
We are kind of interested in doing this as well! I’d love to hear more stories about how it’s worked at other weddings. We don’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen, and I feel awkward about my dad walking me down the aisle, so it sounds like a good idea. But will it feel too informal or not special enough?
Post # 8
@modernmustard: If you watch my friend’s wedding video (and catch a glimpse of me, LOL), you can see how they just sort of walked down (about 0:37-ish), and everyone stood around while they said their vows. They had a few chairs in the front for elderly guests, but that was it. I think the clip at the end is them on their way to the ceremony as well. I think she says “Well let’s go do this”, which leads me to believe that was right around when they rounded everyone up for the ceremony. Honestly it was probably the sweetest, most fun wedding I’ve ever been to. They didn’t have a wedding party, just her niece was the ring-girl and handed them off during the ceremony, it was simple and sweet. The ceremony wasn’t much more complicated than what was in the video!
Post # 9
@bakerella: Awww, that looked awesome. Thank you so much for sharing. I’ve bookmarked it to show my fiance tonight. Our wedding will have a slightly different, more formal vibe (i.e. at a restaurant, urban setting), but I do really love this. Maybe a different but related version could work for us. I think one of the keys is still having a sort of “wedding backdrop,” like they had with the lake.
Post # 10
I would love to hear more real-life example! I’m planning on mingling beforehand too…
Post # 11
I think this is a really nice idea! As a guest, I would find it very warm and intimate. Keep us posted on what you decide!
Post # 12
Two of my friends got married on a beach with their guests facing the water in an arc with no aisle. The groom arrived by seaplane and walked to the ceremony along the dock, and she appeared at the end of the beach and walked along the sand to get there.
I liked that they still made some sort of entrance even though the wedding was super non-traditional and laid back (we were all sitting in the sand on beach towels). Personally I would work out something with your FI where you still get that moment of, “Here we are, it’s time to get married!”
Post # 13
Yes, Mrs.Argentina, both of us will be mingling beforehand. 🙂
We are really casual people and want this to be a party. The big ta-da is just not me!
Bakerella – Thank you for the video! That is just what I picture!!! We won’t be playing bocce ball. But, corn hole and other games will be set up. 🙂
I am wearing a short vintage style dress and he is wearing a tie, but once we are done eating and dancing, we are changing into jeans and ending the night with a bonfire and our friends. (The wedding is 100 miles from where we live, so we are going to spend the whole evening with the friends that make it up.)
Thank you girls for all the encouragement!