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Smaller wedding parties or none at all are my favorite. Makes the wedding more intimate in my opinion. I'd say go for it. Candice
I don't think you are rude by not wanting a bridal party. Just explain to your other friend that it's not that you are just kicking her out of the bridal party, there won't be anyone up there so that she doesn't take it personally. As long as she hasn't paid for any dress or anything then I don't see her minding that decision. And in the end, you want to have the wedding you are comfortable with so if that means no bridal party then go for it :)
@kierbear24- Thank you! and no thankfully she has not bought the dress she just tried it on.
Hey hun! I have the same problem!!! Well sort of! I'll explain. First though, you are not being rude :) It'd be rude if you just asked her not to be your BM because you want a small bridal party or because you want to replace her but since your scratching the whole thing there is nothing rude about that...
My situation is the same, we are having a small destination wedding(we live in CA our family and friends live on the east coast) and I decided it'd be harder just to have a bridal party than not to. So I already told two of the three BMs about it and they're totally cool about it. My FIL's are totally cool with it and my mom isn't really but it's not her wedding haha The BM I haven't told yet I plan on telling actually tomorrow. I know she'll understand and not be offended..at least I hope not! I don't think she will though since we aren't having a bridal party at all ya know?
Good luck girl!
we will only have the best man and the moh... we didnt wanted a big bridal party. we will have them with us because we were with them when they got married.
@BusyBride2Be Thanks girl...Crazy almost same situation! Im going to stop by her place tomorrow and let her and her hubby know... he was suppose to be in the wedding too (FI bestman)....Im sure it'll be fine.
I tink it will be totally fine since she hadn't bought a dress or anything yet.
Well I did tell her and she was fine with it no hard feelings she just asked why we changed our minds and I told her....I think its for the best : )
@ Sep Queen - Very serious lol. I don't even feel like I'm friends with my bridesmaids anymore. No one has offered to do anything...anything. They won't even go get their dresses. I know my wedding is not that important to them but their baby showers and domestic problems werent that important to me either. Overall, they just suck.
My MOH almost backed out of my wedding, but she felt sorry for me and said "scratch what I just said". So I know how you feel. I think it's less stressful with out a wedding party, but it's also much more funner and it makes your grand entrance so much more exciting and "Thun, Thun, Thun, Thun! Here comes the bride!"
@FutureMrs.Taylor- Ugh! sorry about that! even if its not important to them they should know it is to you thats just what friends DO! but I totally understand thats why I dont have tons of friends.
@thefuturemrsgibbs- Oh ya we looked at it from every angle with/without but I think it would just mean so much more to us just him and I up there and its how we would like to remember it who knows if we'll talk to everyone (the wedding party) 5 yrs from now ya know?...
I am totally with you Sep Queen...a big bridal party can jsut be a pain...for my first wedding over 10 yrs ago, we had 5 on each side and none of my girls helped, and my MH just took over the day and really pissed me and everyone else off. This time around we are only having a MH and BM (his sister and brother) and two Jr Bridesmaids only because they totally have their hearts set on being in the wedding. We opted to not have anymore people in it because we are having a very small wedding and didn't want to pick between friends, this was jsut simpler. Who knows maybe your BMs will be a lil relieved, now they won't have to buy a dress :-)
@ Sep_Queen
I'm pretty sure that I will talk to my bridesmaids because they are mostly all family except for my MOH.
It's always good to keep in mind that your wedding is very important and you only get married once. So you do need to make sure that you don't end up regretting the people in your wedding party that you choose.
What did you decide to do? Or when you decide what to do just keep us bees posted okay?
@sleepykirsty-Good idea on only having the MH&BM : )
@thefuturemrsgibbs- So for sure its only going to be my FI and I up there yay! I feel better about the whole thing now : )
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I few days ago I posted about one of my BMs backing out of the wedding http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/bm-backed-out (im over it now) but even before then I have been thinking of not having a bridal party at all I feel it would be more intimate/romantic if my FI and I were the only ones up there with the pastor. Little problem I have asked 2 girls (excluding FSIL who backed out of the wedding), my MH who is my cousin said you should totally do it and I know she meant it she would never lie to me....Ok so now it would be down to telling my other bm who is my friend if she would be cool with it im sure she would only because I asked her before we planned our DW we originally planned on having a huge wedding in town but now a max of 50 guest will be there at our DW. Now the guys im not worried about they are guys they will understand they are not sensitive like some females.
I feel it works out for the best since it is a smaller guest list. What do you bees think am I being rude by now not wanting a bridal party? Does it sound like a great idea? I would love your feedback.