(Closed) Not what I imagined…LONG

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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8884 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I don’t have much advice, but I don’t see how anyone can jump on you for this. I would feel the exact same way. It sounds like your mother is very controlling and that’s not something that you need at this special time in your life.

Have you tried talking to her? Maybe her intentions are good but she’s going about it the wrong way. I have filipino friends who often descibe their parents the exact same way. I’m sorry you’re going through this stress πŸ™

Post # 4
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131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mayflowerbride13:  your definitely not being a bridezilla! I’d feel the same way.. mothers can always be our worst critics. Deep down inside she cares.. take a deep breath everything will come together. Your blessed to have such a wonderful father and should go through with your shower. Best to have a shower made with love then one thrown together.. Good luck & don’t give up.

Post # 6
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1685 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Wow!  You have an amazing father!  I can’t offer any advice other than tell you that your feelings are justified when it comes to your mother.  I’m sorry you are going through this, but at least it’s almost over!

Post # 7
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6207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I don’t see how you could be blamed for feeling like that!  Is there a way the shower could be held at a later date?

Post # 9
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Im sorry you feel so let down. πŸ™ I have been feeling that way lately too. My sister and I got in a huge fight over her MOH dress and aren’t really speaking. That was over a month ago. And now one of my BM might not make it to the BM dress shopping day (even though we planned the whole thing around HER because she lives out of state getting her Masters) because she just recently got engaged and picked that same day to try on Wedding dresses in the morning an hour away. Ugh, wedding planning sucks! I really wish FI and I had just chosen to elope. I have always pictured having a beautiful bridal shower and wonder bachelorette party but seeing how my sister has been acting I really dont think it will happen. :/ Family can kind of suck sometimes.

Post # 11
Hostess
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Sorry you’re having such a hard time with wedding planning.

Post # 12
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mayflowerbride13:  I have been venting to my FI and best friend a lot. My best friend would have been MOH but I know how my sister is and she would have flipped if she wasnt made MOH. My mom and bestie are trying to help as much as possible but even though my mom keeps telling her to my sister refuses to apologize for screaming at me over a stupid dress. Idk, I think I have just resigned myself to the fact that my sister will do all she can to ruin this for me and I will just have to focus on the actual wedding and not on the other stuff. I was really suprised about my other friend tho, she keeps saying that she will make it to the dress store but the timing just doesnt look good. I know she has a lot to do while home but we set up this date over a month ago. Idk… Im not really coping all that well so I dont have much advice for you! lol

Post # 14
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mayflowerbride13:  Lol well I know I’ll survive… my sister on the other hand.. haha jk!!

Post # 15
Hostess
2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mayflowerbride13:  is elopment still out of the  question? would it break your fathers heart if you ran away and got married? sometimes I feel like running away also..

i would embrace your fathers help. he may not know what he is doing but I would appreciate the effort. it’s very sweet of him and you are blessed to have a dad to pick up the peices and dote on you. 

just go ahead and plan a shower. send out invites and just have it as fun as you want. 

 

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