(Closed) Not what I wanted…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@alyssaC:  Aww…your story is so sweet!

I felt the same way about my DH.  I always thought I wanted the suave cassanova; the pretty boy who was always impeccably groomed and could work a room and all the girls want to be with him.  I landed a laidback, “rustic” guy who would live in sweat pants and tees, if he could.  (It’s a good thing he cleans up well, too!  Wink)  The DH brings out my girly side and I love it! 

Post # 4
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319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I didn’t get the one knee either…but then again my ring was sitting on the seat of his truck…in a snow covered parking lot.  So I’ll cut my wonderful FI some slack. 

My FI isn’t who I pictured myself with.  He likes hunting, racing, 4-wheeling…just your overall “good old boy”.  But he’s exactly who I needed before I even knew what I wanted. 

PS – He’s gotten me to try new things like 4-wheeling, snowmobiling, and ice fishing.  And I’ve taught him to slow down and smell the roses. 

Post # 5
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2117 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Honestly, my FI is exactly who I’d have expected to end up with. I’m just shocked that he actually wants ME 😛 lol.

 

Post # 7
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1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@alyssaC:   My guy proposed in swim trunks/shorts.  lol  We were at a spa so I’ll forgive him.  I should have known not to expect a proposal with rose petals and a tux. 

Post # 8
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5015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My FI is not who I expected to be with either, because I was thinking about all the wrong things. He is the best person I’ve ever met and I’m so lucky! Our proposal was perfect- he knows me so well and knew exactly what I would have wanted. Funny how things just work out 🙂

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@alyssaC:  OMFG, how I can relate!!  Not to like, drop a huge contoversial bomb here and open myself to the Judgment of Others…but my FH is more than 20 years older than I am.  I definitely, DEFINITELY did not envision a man like him as my husband when I was a teenager, or even 5 years ago when I met him.  But I met him in a bar, he was the drummer in the band, we became friends (he fell in love…I wasn’t quite there yet).  Then I was laid off from my first job, and unemployed for 3 months.  Nearly ever day of that funemployment, we went hiking together.  We climbed peaks, we hiked valleys, he showed me Indian rock art sites, and we became the best team.  He listened to me when I talked about serious things, he supported me in my every endeavor, he made me laugh endlessly, our families are almost identical, we can gab for hours about books, music, the outdoors, Native history/legends/archaeology…and I completely fell in love with this man with not a gray hair on his head (unbelievably good genes!) and the energy of a 17 year old. I’m a girl who loves a lot of affection, and Mr. Goodall is the first one who never made me feel like I had to beg for it.

I truly believe that life, with all its eccentricities, is never going to submit 100% to your plans for it–and thank goodness!  You and I found love in an unexpected place…maybe we weren’t looking for it, but it sure found us! 

And as for the proposal…it’s the marriage that counts, really.  It’s who you two ARE together that counts, not who you and a nameless, faceless “standard” COULD HAVE BEEN together.  Wishing you the best of everything in your wonderful, unexpected life together!

Post # 10
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507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Totally not what I expected but oh so very happy. He’s a tall, lanky, meat eating, southern, messy black haired, painter with no upper body strength and a disgustingly mushy romantic core under his cynical surface. 

I always thought I’d end up with a veggie, protesting, city snot, who wanted to work backstage in a theatre. 

Somehow I got my super cute, super loving, super talent, and super fun best friend.

Post # 11
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211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Lucky ladies! My out-of-the blue proposal came via a text message. He works out of state at least 7 months of the year. We always said we were fine, didn’t need to get married. together 10 years, own a home together, don’t want kids…

Last year, around our 9 year anniversary of living together, I get weird text messages. Had no idea what he was talking about, so I called him on my last break at work…

Me: So WTF are you talking about, “Should we get “M?”

Him: “Married. Should we get married, Girl?”

Me: *crickets*

Him: “Are you still there?”

Me: “Did you totally just propose to me via text and cell phone?

Him: “Yeah, I’m not the down on one knee type”

Well, I knew that…but I also didn’t think he was the get married type either. Next April, shit be gettin’ real!

And yes, I get to marry by BFF since 1988!

 

 

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