Post # 1
Hey Bees, I have a dilemma — I am not yet engaged, but the dress I want has just been marked down to $200 (from $700) and it being discontinued! Right at this moment they have my size still online.
SO and I have dropped off a broken heirloom ring, it’s being reset into my engagement ring, he’s already paid for the new setting — it will be done in mid March. We’ve both discussed that we want to be married before December 2015, because that’s when our lease runs out at the house we rent — we want to buy one after that.
Should I buy the dream dress I want for cheap before I’m engaged, or wait until I’m actually engaged, maybe miss out and have to find a different dress? I should mention I haven’t tried on any dresses since I’m, you know, not engaged yet.
My mother is in my ear saying BUY IT, BUY IT, you can have it shipped here, he won’t know you already have it! (she has also already designed my brooch bouquet and centerpieces in her head, but that’s a different story. 😛 )
What do you think?
Post # 3
@Dorian5: I say don’t do it. You are not even engaged yet and naything could happen. Also, I am almost certain you will find something you like better between now and your hypothetical wedding. So many pretty styles come out a couple of times a year. If you buy now I bet you’d regret it.
Post # 4
Well you have a wedding date in mind and the ring is being done. So you have decided that you are getting married. In my book, you are engaged. It’s not like marriage is not on the table or if it was a vague idea. So I’d go try the dress on.
But in my experience, my dream dress was not at all like the one I finally bought, I had to try on many, many dresses before I fuond the one, so I wouldn’t buy unless I tried it on.
Great price though!
Post # 5
Can we see the dress? I really think you will find something similar when you are engaged. And you haven’t tried it on yet, either, so the dress you have in your head could turn out to be totally wrong for your body.
Please share when you get a moment! 🙂
Post # 6
You might be sad once you are engaged that you will miss out on dress shopping. Also, you don’t really know what kind of vibe your wedding will have yet, ie, don’t have the venue (or maybe you do?). On the other hand, that is a really inexpensive dress and maybe you could just sell it online if you change your mind.
Post # 7
I wouldnt buy it, but mainly b/c I would NEVER buy a dress that I wasn’t able to try on. I was amazed when I did start trying on dresses not only how different dresses actually looked on me, but also how much my own opinion of what I liked changed once it was actually ON me.
Post # 8
@mommytobee: +1. What I thought was my “dream dress” was nothing even remotely close to what I ended up buying. You don’t want to make this decision in haste (especially without trying it on), or you may regret it down the road.
Post # 9
@sillysillybee: I guess I was thinking too that if I ended up not wanting to use it, then I would be out $200 and that’s not really much of a big deal for us… but if I DIDN’T get it, would I regret it? You’re right though, it’s a ballgowna nd I could try it on and thing “Oh sh!t I look like a cupcake, do not want.” and buy a mermaid.
@mommytobee: That’s the thing, we’ve already thrown around venues, guest list, dates, times. I can’t try it on because it’s not in stores anymore! Only online! Ugh! And David’s Bridal doesn’t have the friendliest return policy. :/
Post # 10
If things don’t work out, you can sell it – and $200 REALLY isn’t a big expense for your dream dress.
Will you regret it if you don’t buy it?
If the answer is yes, then you know what you want already.
PS you can certainly miss the dress shopping – I skipped it (bought online, perfect dress on the first shot) and it spared me a lot of stress!!!
Post # 11
My ‘dream’ dress was not at all what looked good on me. After getting engaged I looked at tons of dresses and all of my favorites ended up looking awful on.. I ended up with something I was completely against. Sometimes when looking at pictures, we see ourselves looking great in something, when it may not actually be flattering at all..
I wouldn’t buy it. You haven’t tried it on and just because you say its your ‘dream’ dress.. doesn’t mean it is! Your opinion will likely change once you try different styles on.
Post # 12
@raspberrymojito: Great point! I bought my dress online, and I did great a freaking great deal but I do wish I’d had the experience of trying on dresses with my mom 🙁
Post # 13
@bourkelton: Oh, that would have helped, wouldn’t it?
Post # 14
DON’T BUY IT! Too many factors might change from now until your wedding. Example, will the dress still match your venue? Fashion changes, your taste changes, even your weight might change, what if it don’t fit anymore? Save your money, don’t do it!
Post # 15
I disagre with everyone else! It’s $200. If you change your mind and want a different one you can always resell it (might get less but it’s still only $200). I did it and it’s still my dream dress! And if it remains your dream dress, you can take that extra money you didn’t spend on the dress and splurge in another area. I say go for it.
Post # 16
@Dorian5: it is beautiful, and I love the peek-a-boo ruffly stuff! 🙂