Post # 1
Wedding planning…It’s crazy, hectic, fun, exciting, miserable, and stressful and to be honest I’ll be thankful when it is over. The wedding we want is a little less traditional than your average wedding. We’ve decided to nix the bells and whistles and plan a party that is down to earth, less wasteful and charming a simple way.
Here are some of the items we do not want to include in our wedding celebrations:
- Engagement Party
- DJ/ Band
- Separate Ceremony Location
- Tuxes for the guys
- Traditional Wedding Cake
- Save the Dates
- Fancy Transportation
- Makeup artist (still up in the air about getting my hair done)
- Table Linens
- Formal place settings
Because I hate to be the center of attention, I would also like to avoid these traditions:
- First Dance (although we will still have a song)
- Father Daughter Dance
- Dollar Dance
- Toasts by Maid of Honor/Best Man
Obviously there is a lot of time to change our minds but we are pretty set on a wedding that resembles a back yard BBQ rather than a formal affair.
Did you skip any of these things? How did it turn out? Would you change anything now?
Post # 3
I can appreciate your not wanting to be the center of attention and think you can certainly acheive your “laid back” party just fine. My only comment would be the photographer. I would hope that you would at least want a good friend to take some pictures so you could preserve memories of the day? Just a thought?
Post # 4
@MasqueradeMom: I do have 3 people that I would designate to take pictures. They aren’t professionals, but they will be able to capture the “traditional” moments. My brother is very artistic and great at capturing details so I will ask him to do this, on his own time. I just don’t want him to feel glued to a camera all night therfore I wouldn’t ask him to take the traditional photos (if that makes sense).
Post # 5
- Engagement Party – didn’t have one!
- Tuxes for the guys – we did suits instead
- Florist – we went with a grocery store florist which turned out really well – we got our flowers free from saving up store points and they were exactly what I wanted
- Save the Dates – necessary for us as everyone was out of town and had to book their hotels before the invites went out
- Makeup artist – I did my own
- Formal place settings – we just used what the venue had
- Champagne – went without
I don’t think you need any of these things to have a beautiful wedding day. However, I would be careful with the friendor photographers. A few of my friends did this and were very disappointed with the outcome as the guests were just that guests and enjoyed the party more than they took pictures (which is what you want I assume). Which resulted in a lot of missed moments. Please reconsider hiring a photographer even if it is just a photography student at least their only job is to take pictures.
Post # 6
@MasqueradeMom: This was my exact reaction.
@lessons: If you feel like you have people you can trust to take pictures, I think that’s fine. But I feel like that’s the one area where it might be worth it to spring for something more traditional.
We’re skipping a lot of this stuff too. No engagement party, DJ or Band (a friend is handling the iPod, my fiance is making a playlist). One location for both, no tuxes or flowers. Pie instead of cake. We are having toasts and a first dance, but skipping a lot of the other traditions. Definitely keeping the champane, though! I think it’s all about taking what elements work for you and ditching the ones that don’t.