Post # 1
DH just told me he doesn’t want me to get him anything for Christmas. It’s been a hard year , he lost his job , and though he’s working he’s taken a major pay cut. I’ve been picking up extra hours when I can and we’re doing alright. We set a $100 budget a few months back which I think is ok.
I told he that I’d agree to not get him anything only if he agreed not to get me anything and he said ” thats not the way it works”. What do you do?? I’ve tried saying we can just get something small or make something for each other but he’s not going for it.
Also my favorite part of christmas is the giving part! Sorry ladies I just need to vent , I think we BOTH need something to cheer us up. Thanks again.
Post # 3
Is he the type that doesn’t really like gifts at all? My husband doesn’t really care for getting presents on holidays. Maybe you could take him out to dinner or something that he likes on your treat so he won’t feel like it’s a present per say.
Post # 4
Thanks MissAsB , yes he’s not a person that loves getting gifts , But I love GIVING gifts!! LOL I just don’t think nothing is an option.
Post # 5
How about you “give” each other a night out on the town? Go to a nice dinner and a concert, or show, or even a movie… something that you’ve always wanted to do together, but don’t usually have enough time. Then it’s special for you both and you’re not out shopping for something that you don’t really need.
Post # 6
EIther no gifts for both of you.. or just one gift each. He can’t say “don’t get me anything” then expect you to accept something from him! That’s silly.
Post # 7
What if you just kept it cheap/free/DIY? I know it’s cliche, but homemade gift certificates for stuff like backrubs, etc. are at least something, or make it your goal to make all of his favorite meals the week leading up to Christmas (don’t tell him, and see if he figures it out – secretly smothering someone with love can be sooo fun!). There are plenty of ways to spoil and love your man that aren’t wrapped up in shiny paper 🙂
Post # 8
He sounds like my SO. He tells me no gifts on birthdays or Christmas because “he’s a grown man.” *eye roll* He’s a silly man.LOL I usually get him soenthing anyway. He knows I don’t listen. It’s usually something small, but it is something.
Post # 9
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I’d just get him something anyways! 🙂 But, I’m stubborn like that…
Post # 10
I am with amanda.lynn- I’d get him something small anyways! But I also like the idea of you two spending a romantic night out on the town or doing something nice together.
Post # 11
I second the something small. Is there anything he’d really like to get/do but can’t afford it? Or what about something cool that BOTH of you can use, like cheap concert tickets to a new indie band, or a gift certificate to a restaurant?
Post # 12
he sounds just like my husband… I said we shouldn’t get each other gifts since we’re pretty poor and I needed to do so much gift shopping for others. Then he told me he’ll get me the Nintendo DS I’ve been coveting, so of course I said “well, if you’re getting me something then I have to get you something, even if it’s small.” So then he told me to just give him a nice dinner, which I’ll be doing anyway so it doesn’t count lol. He’s definitely not a present guy. They didn’t really do presents so much when he was a kid, so idk. I don’t know what to do either! I’ll try to go the something small route, but I don’t know what the small something should be!
Post # 13
Forgoing the gifts can really help you focus on what is important at Christmas time. Your health, being with family and if you’re religious – there is a lot more to Christmas than a gift. That being said, I think everyone needs a good ol price ceiling. SO went overboard one year so then I did the next year and I feel like it’s escalating. Time to scale it back.