Post # 1
I was starting to feel really positive. I stopped the wedding talk. BF promised it’s going to happen soon enough. Last night when his roommate said “BF got youuuu a present last night tooo!” I didn’t even think anything of it when BF made a face and went “Shhh!”
I told myself do not get your hopes up. It’s nothing. It’s probably the blow dryer you asked for.
I just got a text from my cousins GF…well…now fiance. I used to like her, I REALLY did. But she changed and I recently stopped liking her.
Well, they got engaged like 30 seconds ago. How pathetic is it that I am crying?
Everyone has been wondering who would be first and I just wanted to be first!! I am so upset…
And now I officially have no hope that I’ll be engaged any time soon. :'(
Post # 3
@lalalalinzii: Ahh i know just how you feel. When i was waiting my now DHs best friends GF (DH’s ex-gf) texted ME to say she was engaged..i was crushed and cried and threw the phone.
I look back on that moment now and think of how silly i was. and i am sure one day you will feel the same when you look back on this post.
Things do happen for a reason and your time will come. Maybe he did get the ring, i cant see why his friend would remember and make a comment if it was just a hair dryer…but who knows.
Chin up! Christmas is on its way.
I hope you feel better 🙂
Post # 4
@Baileyh:Thank you. I am sitting here crying. It’s so ridiculous. I know it is. Theyve been dating long [not much but longer] and theyre older… I should just stop. But it makes me so mad. And BF knows how bad I want to marry him and he is making me wait. Ugh. Well if Christmas comes and he takes out a jewelry box, I’ll know…cause I told him no small boxes unless it’s a ring. I wish I wasn’t so selfish, but it really isn’t fair!
Post # 5
@lalalalinzii: awww i’m sorry. i know it’s such a sinking feeling, especially when you’ve done so well in your patience/waiting…
let it out, be emotional, and be jealous… then shake it all out of your system… and get back to your positive vibes/thinking…
i just KNOW it’s coming and as much as the waiting hurts and is annoying… believe me — from a married bee — it truly is the best part! the big day and everything with it flies by SO fast… enjoy it all! the nervousness, the madness, the sadness, etc 🙂 it will come soon!
Post # 6
@missjyc:Thank you! That helped so much. I think if I liked my cousins gf, it’d be one thing…I’d be stoked! But ugh…she sucks. She’s just not a nice girl. I am seriously praying either I am engaged by Christmas [not likely] or that they do not come to Christmas dinner, because I will be so upset…[also not likely].
Post # 7
Thats rough. I know EXACTLY how you feel.
Before we were engaged, we set up one of my best friends with one of FI’s best friends. They hit it off and 6 months into their relationship they were engaged. At this point FI and I were at the 4 year mark and I had some serious engagement fever. Dealing with that was probably one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do (and it didnt help that I was a bridesmaid and FI was a groomsman). I admit it, I was a total bitch though the whole ordeal but now I look back on it and wish that I would have just dealt with it and been happy for them. The only advice I can give you is to try to deal with it as amicably as you can. You’re time will come. Mine did!
Post # 8
@UpstateCait:Thanks so much! I know it will. I wish I could just be patient. It’s probably because I have been uber emotional this week too…not PMS…HOPEFULLY not pregnancy either… but I know I sound ridiculous and spoiled. I just can’t believe they’re engaged. I thought for sure my cousin was the biggest commitment phobe in the world and she layed on the pressure. I guess maybe that should allow me to be hopeful because my BF hates wedding talk, even though he says we’ll be engaged within the year…so maybe that means he’s like my cousin and it’ll be sooner. I don’t know.
I’m a mess and I need to relax myself before he gets here!
Post # 9
@lalalalinzii: We do have two pretty major holidays coming up, ya know!
ETA: Something else I should have mentioned before, after our friends engagement and FI seeing the emotional toll it took on me, he started to seriously think about our engagement more and more. He saw how much it bothered me and the fact that I said “it should be me” about a bazillion times pretty much confirmed it all. I will say that it sounds like you are taking their news better than I took my friends. We were driving home from work and they called us. When I hung up the phone I screamed. Like not a little scream, but a possessed demonesque scream. I also may or may not have floored it and ran a red light (or two) in a fit of fury. Amazingly FI’s still marrying me so there is hope! =)
Post # 10
@lalalalinzii: your not being selfish at all. This is something you want, and usually the girls want it before the guys but its a two way street so patience is a virtue.
Just know…you are NOT selfish….:)
Post # 11
I have no advice, but just stay positive.
Post # 12
Ugh. I have the distinct feeling that the “gift” his roomie said he got me is underwear. It didn’t dawn on me until last night, but he’s made comments in the past about the cheap, tiny underwear in wet seal, where they were shopping some of the night. I have always told him I’ll pass on the butt floss and I like VS Lacie…he knows this.
I hinted around last night to try and see if it could be jewelry and he was like “umm it’s really nothing special, don’t get too excited.” UGH!!! I knew I was getting ahead of myself. He could still be tricking me… but I said “ok well remember our rule…it better not come in a small box if it’s not a ring.” and he said “it’s for your stocking, it won’t be in a box. WTF BF!!!
Post # 13
OH NO! I don’t have much new advice. Maybe he is trying to trick you… but maybe not. Just keep yourself busy and distracted. My fingers are crossed for you that he’s got plans up his sleeve, and plans for the NEAR future.
Post # 14
I agree with PP … scream yell and get it all out of your system. I did that Thursday night and was a total walking Bitch at work on friday just for fun. Thank god i have a good friend at work who said to stop. It will happen and we went out and got some of that new Baskin Robbins Red Velvet Cake icecream, and today I feel a TON better. I really did wallow in the sorrow for a full day. I KNOW that helped … no on to positive vibes!
Post # 15
Well I agree…get out the shouts… and then carry on…
YOu know how life is
As soon as you stop thinking about something
Post # 16
🙁 That’s rough. If it makes you feel any better though, a week after my boyfriend bought my ring, my brother proposed to his girlfriend of 2 months.
Which, so as not to steal FSIL’s thunder, pretty much meant our engagement would have to wait. Even though WE’VE been together 2 and 1/2 years. [Quick aside: Not as long as many people on the waiting list, I know, but I’m from a teeny tiny town in the South. Dating longer than 2 years without an engagement is a bit unusual here. Leads to unwelcome questions about whether the milk is being gotten for free, haha.]
Fast forward a few months to today…the ring’s still in a safety deposit box instead of on my finger. 🙁 Torture. The only perk is that now my BF calls himself my pre-ancé. XD
Keep your chin up, it’ll happen!