Post # 1
3 days ago I had 194 or 196 that hadn’t responded now I’m at 169. So I started calling, texting, sending smoke signals to try to contact people. Some of the responses I got I didn’t even reply to because if I did it would have been “Don’t come to my flipping wedding!”.
- I didn’t know what RSVP meant
- Girl you know black folks don’t do that
- What’s the big deal just order extra stuff. Me: That’s extra food, chairs, dinnerware. Guest: Why don’t you just use plastic. Me: no response
- What time does the reception start cause I’m just coming to get F’d up with FI
- You know I’m coming, I wouldn’t miss an open bar
- When is the wedding again? Me: The date printed on the invitation. Guest: I didn’t even open that thing. Me: Don’t.
I am just so beyond annoyed right now. What pisses me off even more is that I know if we run out of food, or there is confusion about seating, people are just going to say “They ran out of food, stuff was disorganized and such. They are not going to say, Well, we didn’t RSVP I wonder how many other people didn’t RSVP or probably if we had RVSP’d there would have been enough of everything.
Post # 3
Wow, I feel for you OP! That’s pretty crazy. If you can handle it, I suggest contacting all of the missing RSVP’s and saying “since I haven’t heard from you by now, I’m going to mark you as not attending. I hope to see you at the next (whatever) get together.” You definitely need to give final #’s to rentals and catering and you can’t have all of those possible guests showing up.
Post # 4
Some people have no class, wth do they expect? At this point it is crunch time, you have got to do what PP mentioned, order extra food, or only order enough food for the guests who rsvp’d. Maybe assign seating for the guests who RSVPd, and those will be the only ones eating. Everyone else can either go home, or stand.
Post # 5
Wow, that’s really, really terrible. I’d be tempted to change the venue and only tell the people who RSVPed, if it didn’t mean losing deposits. Ugh. Do your family/friends do this a lot? Have there been other weddings with the same people that you could ask the bride how the responses looked for that wedding?
I’m so sorry you’re going through this!
Post # 6
that’s crazy. when was your rsvp deadline? how many guests? i only had to contact a few missing rsvp’s but i knew they were coming.
some people just don’t get it. my brother is really bad for this. i already knew he was coming. so just check mark the damn thing and drop it in the mail. a couple of years ago, my cousin had a the same issue with my brother.
Post # 7
I’d say if they don’t RSVP consider them a NO! That’s so rude and I know how frustrating it is my family doesn’t always RSVP either and usually it isn’t a huge deal if its just a BBQ or family dinner but this is a wedding….so annoying. Sorry you have to deal with that.
Post # 8
Out of curiosity, OP, how big is the overall guest list?
Post # 10
Yikes, that’s awful. I agree about letting those ones know “we will miss you there” to hopefully take the hint that they better not show up unexpectedly.
Post # 11
The guest list is at 251. 71 accepted 10 decline and 169 no response. I don’t care if only 100 shows up. I just need to know that those 100 are coming. Most of these people are ones FI insisted that I had to invite. My ideal number would be 150. The biggest problem is that my venue is a blank slate. I have to rent everything from a rental company. They are delivering on Friday and my wedding is on Sunday. They are only open half day on Saturday and closed on Sunday. So it’s not like we can pull tables and chairs out of another room.
One thing is for sure my guest that RSVP’d will not be inconvenienced by the ones who didn’t.
Post # 12
Wow…. I would be beyond stressed if I were you. Hang in there, and if I were you, I would assign someone to continue to contact these people so you don’t have to deal with it.
Sending hugs your way!
Post # 13
I am so so so sorry. Hang in there girl!!!
Post # 14
@mrsjjohnson2b: Wow that is a lot!! They better not go to your wedding. I know I would be pissed off!
Post # 15
@mrsjjohnson2b: I am WEAK over some of the responses you got back!! You need to put someone at the door with a clipboard all official and not let all those people in. If you aren’t prepared for them, which is totally their fault, it will cause chaos and ruin your day/mood!!