(Closed) Now I understand how some wedding stink but the bride thinks was great…

posted 7 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I know exactly what you mean.  I’ve been to a couple weddings where I was incredibly bored, couldn’t wait to leave and get some real food, etc., but then I would look over at the bride and she was absolutely beaming and having a wonderful time.  Sometimes just seeing how happy the couple is will make up for a lot of other problems with a wedding. 

So yeah, I hope my wedding is great for all the guests, but I also hope that if it isn’t, I’m blissfully ignorant!

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I love this… so true! 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think, too, that no one party style is going to match the taste of 100+ guests. My FI and I are low-key partiers. If we have a few drinks while sitting around with friends and playing cards, that’s a wild night. Usually we just don’t drink at all, and we don’t go to bars. The most dancing we do is a beginners line dance where an old guy talks you through the steps to a whole host of country songs. It’s actually a lot of fun and a lot of young people go, so don’t let the description fool you! But… obviously, it’s not like a rockin’ dance party atmosphere. And even though it’s all I want, I could see just a dinner being boring to people who are more into partying. We’re not. We like to just hang out.

I think part of that boredom probably comes from being the A- list, as I’ll call it. You’re not quite B list because you really are friends with the bride and groom, not an obligation invite. But you’re the periphery friends, like through work or from back in college. Close enough to want to celebrate but not close enough to be totally engrossed in the reception, the kind of guests that will form their own little group and mingle because the B&G are probably super busy with family and the A list and while they stopped by to make sure they said hello and possibly came over for a drink, they’ve still got tons of other people to visit! It’s just a theory.

We’re getting around that by only inviting 50 people and doing it our way anyway!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I love this, and yet it really scares me! I’ve been planning so much to make sure everyone has a great time…. I guess it’s true that you can’t please everyone though

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This has totally freaked me out because I thought our wedding was AMAZING but I am convinced that it was horrible and people just didn’t let on!! Oh, well. They have their weddings to do what they want with! 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I went to a wedding where the band was absolutely horrible!  They played maybe 2 decent songs and everyone got up and danced.  Then they stopped and started playing sucky music again and everyone sat down.  Weird.  Aren’t they supposed to feel out that sort of thing?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The last wedding I attended was just beyond horrible. It was SO boring and I could not wait to leave. I later talked to the bride and groom and they thought they held the party of the century. I was shocked because I didn’t even think THEY had a good time. Now I’m having mini-panic attacks hoping my own wedding isn’t boring. My MOH/sister has assured me it won’t be bad but I’m still nervous! I don’t want people to be as board as I was…

Post # 11
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Busy bee

The worst wedding I ever went to involved too many drunken people. I think you avoid what you as the bride consider the be the worst and go with the flow on everything else.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think another thing that can give the bride a better image of her wedding is pride.  The bride may just not want to admit that her wedding wasn’t very fun, because she was so invested in the planning.

I didn’t have a great time at my SIL and brother’s wedding, yet they thought it was a blast. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

You know some brides have different ideas on how their wedding is going to be.  I won’t be having dancing and wouldn’t if I even had the money to rent out a huge venue.  I don’t dance and I don’t party.  I don’t drink and we’re having a dry ceremony.  It’s just different for each bride.  I’m inviting friends to share the event and memory, not to party and no offense, my main concern is my future husband and not so much about how enjoyable the event is for everyone other than us.  Yes, I take into consideration food, hotel accomodations, and how to make my guests most comfortable.  I guess I’m just trying to speak up for the brides who have a different idea of how they want their wedding.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think a lot of people over plan a wedding and it takes the fun out of it.  If you plan it because thats the way you want it and have no concern for your guests then it can be boring.  Keep it simple.  The only thing I ever remember from a wedding is:  the food, the drinks, the brides dress and the dancing.  I couldn’t tell you what was on a table and I couldn’t tell you what people were wearing.  If I remember that I danced, that I had lots of drinks and the food was good then that was a successful wedding to me.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

wow now i’m scared everyone will think our wedding sucks because it will be at church without dancing period just some food and friends…

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

@ashleykaye15:  Your wedding won’t suck.  Don’t worry about what other people think b/c it’s your and your fiance’s day!  Enjoy it!

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