Now I understand the child free wedding

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

What can I say? Some people need to learn how to control their offspring. This is less about having a child-free wedding and more a sad reflection on our society.

Post # 5
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Ugh. I was thinking of finding some sort of babysitter and setting up a “play room” for the kids during the wedding, and had decided it wasn’t in the budget. Every time I hear a story about this, I reconsider.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I had a similar experience, but at the reception versus the wedding.  Everyone sat down to eat, and there was probably almost as many kids there as there were adults.  And, so.much.noise.  Clinking dishes, crying, running around tables, shaking toys, spilling water….it was unbelievable.  Sadly, I couldn’t hear any speeches, thanks yous or even the DJ most of the time who was on the mic throughout dinner.   Granted, this was the first wedding that I’d been to that had that many kids, but it was enough to really cut down our kid list by a ton. 

Post # 8
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1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@VikingPrincess:  On top of it all, I cannot imagine that most kids enjoy weddings.  I definitely thought of myself as soooooo adult when I was a kid, and I hated any event with a fancy dinner + my parents’ friends… When my parents asked us if we wanted to go to stuff like that, we would always ask for a babysitter instead.  At least we got to order pizza with the babysitter…

Post # 9
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6506 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Haha I experienced my first wedding with kids last month. Absolutely terrible… Yes, parents should be able to control their kids but unfortunately the parents at the wedding I was at truly just didn’t care. I felt so bad for the bride- one kid broke her personalized crystal champagne flute and others were ripping decorations off the wall. The groom at one point (during speeches) actually picked up one of the kids that was running around and asked the dad to keep her at the table. 30 seconds later she was running around again. I understood after that wedding why people don’t like to invite kids. You can’t trust parents now a days to actually make their child behave.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I agree on the part that most kids probably don’t like weddings all that much. I’m sure they have fun dancing, but a lot of weddings is sitting and watching. Not fun for kids! I’m not having a child free wedding, because FI and I have some younger cousins we’d like to attend (so I guess it’s only children in our family) but the other day my cousin’s wife goes “my kids aren’t allowed to come…right?” I told her I had them on the guest list. So she repeats “but my kids aren’t allowed to come…RIGHT?!” Haha so they are no longer invited. Her daughter will be 7 and her son will be 5, and she said she’d rather she and her husband have the night to themselves!Works for me…2 fewer on the guest list!

 

Post # 11
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1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I am soooooo glad that only one set of friends of ours has a young child. Who will be 4 months old at the time of our wedding and will more than likely be being watched by grandma that day. Phew!

Post # 12
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2115 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

On the flip side, I’ve been to many weddings with children that went off beautifully and the children did not bother anyone. So, you know, it’s not like having kids there automatically means difficulty.

Post # 13
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6013 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I am so thankful that the few kids that are coming to our wedding (most are ages 11-18, so not really kids) are extremely well behaved. I love it when parents actually do their jobs 🙂

Post # 14
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1894 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

i just found out a little more than a month away that my venue requires babysitters for childreen age 2-10….. luckily my mother had insisted on having the kids so she will have to pay (7nieces/nephews who are now my ‘jr bridal party’ if i have to have them there might as well have them be cute and match)

while its a bit annoying i do understand bc some parents dont really see the need to keep their kids quiet or under control and since our venue is an old mansion filled w antiques its really imporant to.have some one watching over the.kids

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

thankfully mostly adults have rsvpd to my wedding. we only have two kids coming, both are over age 6 and are the most extremely well behaved kids i have ever seen. honestly, i cant stand children. in a restaurant the other night (at 10:00pm) there was a woman with a child who was almost 2 it looked like, screaming (not crying, just squealing) at the top of her lungs in the booth behind us. who has a toddler out in a bar type restaurant on weekend night at 10:00pm? ugh and the mother didnt try to quiet the child, she just let her stomp around and squeal. i swear, i cant stand children especially ones at the age that they dont understand what being told no means or that theyre being told to stop doing something.

Post # 16
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168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I have had generally bad experiences with kids at weddings. One was a kid chasing his mom (a bridesmaid) down the aisle screaming “I… WANT… CAAANNNNDDDDYYYYY!!!!” at the top of his lungs. Same kid was constantly walking up to the cake table and stealing cupcakes during the speeches. The other was a ring bearer who just basically wandered all over the place (mom was a bridesmaid and dad was a groomsman). Luckily his parents had a contingency plan in place with a babysitter and pulled him out of the ceremony.

It depends on the age, though, and the number of kids that are there. I just went to a wedding with kids that was no problem, but most of them were older. They were all cousins that could hang out together, so the older ones could babysit the younger ones.

But generally in my experience, if you’re having young kids at your wedding, you just have the accept the fact that they will probably steal the show.

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