Now I wait

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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8701 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

The wedding is about you.

The proposal is about him.

Saying “The proposal is stupid” is saying “Him wanting a moment in the limelight is stupid.”

This isn’t about you, this is the one thing that he gets that is explictly about him. Let him have his moment.

Post # 4
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

Just let him do something nice for you, I’m sure there are worse things to endure in the world 🙂

Post # 8
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8701 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@searock:  I don’t see how having a church wedding matters. I didn’t have a church wedding. I highly doubt that “he” is lucky that you’re wearing a dress, too. I’m not a fan of dresses myself but wedding dresses are usually not “just” dresses.

The way you feel so bitterly against this is concerning, plus the way you speak about him.

This does not sound like a healthy way to begin a marriage. Marriage is about compromise, and if you’re going roll your eyes and say that the compromises he wants are stupid, how is that going to fare further down the line?

Like I said. The wedding is about you. Whether or not it’s a church wedding or you’re wearing a big white dress — weddings are always about the bride.

The proposal is about him. He wants that. I think it’s very unfair to him for you to continually say what he wants is dumb and stupid. You get your day. Why is it okay for you to look down on his? I get that you just want to be married and be done with it, but this is something he obviously feels passionate enough to want.

Post # 10
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@searock:  you are definitely an off beat bride. I honestly find the origins of a lot of the wedding traditions dumb! You can share your feelings about it here. If he is really excited about it, just let him have it and not rain on his parade. 

I too do not wear jewelry and could care less if he didn’t propose with one. The ring symbolizes no beginning, no end and is placed on that finger because they thought that there was a vein that ran from there to the heart. It’s kinda lame.

We are already planning our wedding too but I would like him to specifically ask me to marry him… I’m waiting.

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