Post # 1
So after the ring was designed and I gave the final okay – my boyfriend told the jeweler he would be back to pay the remaining balance November 12th.
Well, fast forward to yesterday. I have all sorts of financial drama with my current college situation, and my boyfriend gingerly said he couldn’t help because he bought the ring. Well, that stopped me in my tracks! I was like…. “Soooo… you bought the ring?” He said, “Yeah… I mean, NO.”
🙂 I don’t know why that makes me happy! I knew it was coming, because we decided on the diamond and I sketched my ring design. I saw the ring, it was on my finger. I also know when he’s proposing because he cannot keep a secret. I was a little bummed, so on a recent date night I asked him to consider changing the date (sooner or later) so I would be surprised.
But I also feel bad! Even though we got an amazing deal on the ring, it is still very very expensive. And with me going to school full time (and losing my savings), I feel guilty. He can afford it, I know that. But I think he feels uncomfortable with this huge purchase though he’s insisted it was worth it.
So I guess the waiting officially OFFICIALLY begins now.
Post # 3
Try to just enjoy yourself. It seems like your guy paid the ring off over time, so you’re not going into debt over it. I justify the expensive ring purchase by reminding myself that I’ll wear it every day for the the rest of my life. What other big purchase lasts that long? And just think- in the few(?) years you’ll be done with school and be making even more money.
Get excited! Get rid of that doubt! You’re going to be engaged soon!!!
Post # 4
Congrats!!! Try not to worry too much about the amount he spend. It’s over and done with now and at least it will be something you will appreciate forever. Have fun waiting!!!
Post # 5
Congrats!! I remember those feelings when I knew DH was in the process of buying the ring. I knew it was important to HIM for the diamond to be over 2 carats and I had such mixed emotions about it. The combination of being excited about being able to wear such a fancy ring soon, finally being ENGAGED!! mixed with the guilt of him spending so much $. Yes, he was easily able to afford it, but it was just such a shock to realize what he was doing.
I say enjoy it, getting engaged is the first step you two will take on your marriage journey and it’s truly a right of passage. It was his decision to spend the amount and like PP’s have said it’s over and done with.
Post # 6
Congrats! not going to lie, I’d feel guilt a slight bit – but just as you want to build a life with him and give him what he wants, he wants to do the same for you!
Post # 7
men are so bad at covering up yes…..i mean no lol mines the same, it would be nice if he could change when he is doing it like you said so you can be suprised.