(Closed) Now im so sure i have no friends AT ALL!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2274 posts
Buzzing bee

That really sucks. It is especially crappy that they are in Jamaica right now. You need to talk to them all and tell them how you feel.

Post # 4
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914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry this is happening to you and really don’t have any advice to offer but wanted to offer you hugs and say no matter what, at the end of the day you still have your fiance, and that’s what really matters! I’m sorry they went to Jamaice, that is really poopy of them.

Post # 5
Hostess
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

It’s upsetting that your friends can’t come but that’s the risk you run with a destination wedding. Try not to judge them for taking a vacation – you don’t know if it was booked on last minute airline miles or something. I can understand this being upsetting but it doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t love you or consider you a friend.

I think the bigger issue is that you feel like you have no one to turn to. Have you thought about getting out there and meeting new people? You could join a class or club, meet up with some coworkers for happy hour or call up some old friends you’ve gotten out of touch with. It’s hard putting yourself out there but it could be great! 

Post # 6
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1584 posts
Bumble bee

@babystush:  that stinks. they don’t seem like very thoughtful girls. It is really difficult to find true friends. You just keep being a nice person and you’ll find one eventually. I’ve had the same bestie since high school but we started out enemies in middle school. so who knows, maybe one of these mean girls will be your best mate one day. ya never know!

Post # 8
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554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I AM AVAILABLE TO GO TO JAMAICA !

seriously, as long as you are with your ❤ everything will be wonderful.

blessings

Post # 13
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1584 posts
Bumble bee

@babystush:  well sometimes people grow apart. dont feel bad about that. As for being nice, my big sister (sorority) once told me to be who i am and not change based on what others do. so if youre honest be honest, nice be nice. just be you and someone will love you for it

Post # 15
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192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That really sucks…sorry your friends aren’t there for you during this special time.  Perhaps they are a bit jealous and would rather do the “girls only trip” than see you get married?  I can see how this would really hurt. It might be a good idea to let them know how you feel and if they don’t have a good explaination for going to JA now rather than for your wedding – they just aren’t worth your time.

Another thing to consider is further limiting the guest list if you’re worried about lopsided numbers.  I think it is awkward for everyone when the numbers are too lopsided, so see if your FI is open to trimming the list a bit further if possible?  I pray that God will send you some good girlfriends to make up for the twits who ran off to Jamaica, stay open, and try to reach out to women you meet who seem nice and have similar interests…the rest will flow naturally.

Post # 16
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691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

First of all, I’m sorry you’re feeling so icky and e-hugs from me as well.

Unfortunately, having a destination wedding is going to have a lot of fall-out like this.  You’re asking people, even if its a year ahead of time, to invest hundreds of dollars, use up vacation time at work, get sitters for the pets, etc, for a trip that will be partially (or fully, sometimes) monopolized by your event.  Not that weddings aren’t fun, but that’s one night of precious vacation that your guests can’t spend checking out the nightlife/lounging at the pool/sleeping off a long day of other activities/whatever they’d also like to be doing at that destination.

Personally, if I had to give up my last 3 vacation days for the year, and spend upwards of $1,000 in vacation money to go to jamaica, I’d want to have every moment entirely to myself.  I’d only be willing to give that much up for a wedding for the sake of my immediate family.

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