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    Miss Seersucker    March 19, 2011   Charleston, SC

    I understand that it is not proper etiquette to include a registry card in the invite and while I don't give a hoot if I get one from someone else, I felt best not including one due to the fact that I am unsure about how my FIs family and friends would feel about it. My family wouldn't mind one bit.

     

    So instead, I looked around the interwebz and found a Bee who made a card similar to this. I used similar wording and I made an information card that states this:

     

    As a courtesy to our guests, we have created a website for your reference. This site provides directions & fun facts about us, as well as answers to other frequently asked wedding questions. Please point your web browser to the following address: www._____.net

     

    Now after reading a pervious post, my concern is that this is going to be considered tacky and rude as well. I know this will probably stur up debate, but I hope to get honest answers that are constructive and polite. Please not personal attacks on myself or others. Let's play nice!

     

    EDIT: If you disagree with what I've done, what is your suggestion for fixing the problem. Keep in mind these are at the printers and being completed as we speak. Suggestions?

     
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    nut9108      

    Wedding website cards are perfectly acceptable to include in an invitation suite. No need to worry!

     
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    Miss Tattoo    September 15, 2012   Pittsburgh, PA

    I don't see a problem with it. This is 2010, not 1940. Etiquette needs to be updated for the electronic age and we have to remember that each generation is getting younger. I don't have anyone over the age of 65 in my family and they are all computer savvy. Every wedding in our family has had a seperate registry card. No one in our family holds their nose up to anything. You have to remember that your guests are not logging on to wedding websites and reading magazines every day. Some of the things that other people think are tacky is pretty normal in some parts of the country (dollar dance, potluck receptions, ect) Don't let the etiquette police tell you something about your guests that you only know. I know my guests on both sides and no one is going to boycott my wedding because there were registry cards in the invites. ^_^

     
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    trailmix      

    No way, inserts directing guests to your wedding website are TOTALLY fine!! How else will guests know what the attire of your wedding is, where any additional events are being held, what time everything starts, etc...No worries, you're completely in the clear on this one!

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    This is totally fine!

    I had my wedding website on my info card within my invite suite!

     
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    Belle2Be      

    Wedding websites are perfectly ok! I am doing one, as well as printing out and mailing Newsletters  with the same info (minus the registry info) for those who aren't computer savvy :D

     
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    melisslp    July 3, 2010   St. Louis, MO

    I included my wedding website on the back of our direction card.  No worries, girl!

     
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    totheislnds    February 12, 2011   NC

    i think ita a great idea, i actually put our website on the save the dates but i sent them postcard style and didnt realize that the post office would stamp over them so i dont think alot of people noticed it on there so i have to figure out a way as well to get those in with the invitations, no just for registry but hotel info and other things as well.

     
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    Moose1209       Nashville, TN

    The other girls are right, this is totally fine.  I prefer the website on the save the date rather than the invitation just because the save the date is a less formal item but from an etiquette stand point you can include your wedding website anywhere you like.  Don't stress : )

     
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    simplifiedbride    June 2011   California

    This is totally fine and proper.  I'm sure your guests will appreciate being directed to the website, and hopefully it will save you time from answering the same questions over and over.  :)

     
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    sassypants      

    I think its a great idea, dont be worried at all!

     
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    Amani    March 27, 2010  

    Totally fine.  It's not like you're simply pointing someone to a website that says - hey, buy us a gift from Macys.  I love wedding websites b/c you can find info re directions, hotel blocks, wedding events, registry, etc.  Don't worry about it :)

     
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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    Totally fine.  I put a note about our wedding website on both our save the dates, and th the reception card in our invites.

    I wasn't as wordy about it though.  Just something like "for more information please visit www.ourwedding.com"

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    As long as the sum total of content on your wedding website isn't "WE'RE REGISTERED HERE GIVE US PRESENTS!!!!!", I see nothing wrong with it. On our website, we included stuff like directions, stuff to do in the area, a cutesy story of our engagement, etc, as well as registry information. I had a number of guests comment on how useful they found our site.

     
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    eileen marie    6/27/09   Chicago

    I know we included SOMETHING with our wedding website on it -I think it was the reverse of the map.  It wasn't necessarily for the registry (most people give cash anyhow), but so that guest would have location info etc. at their fingertips.

     
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    Miss Seersucker    March 19, 2011   Charleston, SC

    Thank you all for your kind words and reassurance! PHEW! :)

     

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