Post # 1
Well, it happened. My little brother got engaged. I’m so incredibly happy for him and I know he has made the right choice. It’s definitely a time of celebration!
But…well, it has hit me a little harder than I thought it might. I had never assumed I’d be engaged first just because I am older than my brother, but….I guess I never expected it? And I have to admit that I am jealous and a little sad for myself. I thought my SO and I would be engaged by now, but we aren’t.
Le sigh! Anyone else have close family members or friends who’ve gotten engaged this summer? How did you handle it?
Post # 3
I felt weird about my sister getting engaged and she’s older… I think its a totally normal feeling! Try not to get discouraged. It’s just a moment like “wow I should be at this point in MY life”
Post # 4
My little sister got married before me AND within the first year she was pregnant. It sucked and I hated it. All I can say is just be happy for your brother and cherish your time with SO. Your turn will come!!
Post # 5
I would be pretty bummed too. My brother & his GF have been together less than a year & hes ready to marry her. SO and I have been together almost 9 years & hes thissssss close to asking. My mom told my brother to wait for SO to ask me first! lol
Post # 6
i would be internally devastated and jealous, but never let them know.
Post # 7
If one of my sisters got engaged before me I would be a little jealous but happy for them at the same time, I know my time is coming, but in the meantime I will let them have their moment.
Post # 8
@kandykane1: I remember at a family wedding, a cousin of mine was bragging about how he and his GF of a few months were the next to have a wedding. That got to me a little (I wasn’t expecting a ring tho), my SO and me had been together for 6 years at that point. I tuned him out of my head for the rest of the night. Shortly after that, they broke up.
There hasn’t been a family wedding since… I wonder if mine would be the next one.
Post # 9
stay strong! . I would be the same. smile, our turn will come 🙂
Post # 10
@nolapeanut: Yeah, I pretty much feel that way. Very jealous and envious and sad, but I’d never tell my brother. And I truly am happy for him. He deserves much happiness and his SO is wonderful. It’s just a rough spot for me to be in.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Aww sweety I’m sorry, I’m sure the weird feeling will pass! And I totally think it’s a common reaction 🙂
no one I’m close to has gotten engaged this year but BF’s sister just had her first anniversary about a week ago, and that dredged up some sad feelings, partly because I had hoped that after a year my own happy ending would have felt at least a little closer, but no.
It’ll happen for all of us, just gotta keep pumping out the positive thoughts x
Post # 12
YES! My brother who is 4 years younger than me met his now wife after me and FI had been dating for 2.5 years, living together for 2 years and I was totally ready to get married. They proceeded to get engaged the following June (less than a year after meeting) and married 2 months later in Sept. I was excited for him because he really did marry his “other half” but I was choked that I was watching my baby bro get married before me after being in a serious relationship for much longer.
BUT his wedding is not at all what FI and I want, so DURING the wedding I didnt struggle with jealousy, but it was still hard to wrap my head around.
I took a note of a lot of things and my wedding will be less work for everyone and my family will be able to enjoy it completely without worrying, which i might not have been able to plan for if he hadnt been married first.
The weird feelings will go away, and once it’s your turn you’ll be able to enjoy your day with your brother and sister-in-law!
Post # 13
@kandykane1: I logged into FB today (the only website that has more engagement announcements than WeddingBee!) and saw that my cousin is getting married today. I don’t really know the guy and I didn’t even realize they had decided to do it. I’m not sure what prompted it, but I suppose I’ll find out soon! A planned courthouse wedding. We’ll see!
I am anxious for it to happen for me, but everytime someone else gets engaged or married, I just try to imagine what my turn will be like and the daydreaming is enough for now. SO joked about getting engaged in a year, so I’m guessing that means he is intending sometime in the next year to propose. haha, I guess that’s the only timeline I’m going to get!
Post # 14
@kandykane1: No one close has gotten engaged in the entire year we’ve been together! How weird is that?
When my little sister got pregnant (she’s not engaged/married) people asked me if I was jealous. Um. No? But I think if she had gotten engaged I might have been. Now I think the only bad thing about her having a baby first is that I love him desperately but he’s so damn tiring! If I babysit more than 6 hours my SO has to hear a “very serious talk” about how I don’t think I want kids for two days… then I start wanting them again. 😛
Post # 15
My younger brother got engaged before me and I lost it. Total freak out crying moment, not one of my best, but it happened. He also got married before me and that was fine. Things just happen, I wanted to be first since I was the oldest but it did not happen that way and I had to let it go.