(Closed) Now that it’s over, what do you feel you regret and/or missed out on?

posted 8 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

1. I miss not having a shower/bachelorette party also.

2. I wish I had been able to DIY more.

3. I wish that I had more friend involvement in my wedding overall.  I was one of the first to get married so I think a lot of people didn’t really know what to do to help.

Post # 5
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2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

1. I wish I had done a trial with a few different hairstyles. I kind of settled on one  to be easy, but I constantly second-guess it after seeing it in pictures.

2. I wish my husband had more supportive groomsmen.

3. I kind of wish we had stayed in our hotel one extra night, the night after the wedding, because we were exhausted the next morning, and spent the first day/night of our honeymoon sleeping (seriously).

4. My biggest regret: Not getting anxiety meds before the big day. I suffer from anxiety, and I had a feeling I would make myself sick the day of the wedding (fear of being the center of attention), and I totally did. I missed out on spending quality time with my family and friends while getting ready, etc. I’m on meds now, and those situations no longer make me sick. Oh well! Live and learn! I felt fine once our ceremony was done.

Post # 6
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618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Oh, you’re all going to hate me, but I can’t really think of any regrets that I have.  I’m definitely not saying that everything was perfect or there weren’t things I’d change if I had to do it again, but even the imperfect stuff turned out to be things we look back on a laugh about.  I’m really glad we did things the way we did…having a destination wedding especially.  Some people are still mad about it, but we had the best time ever and I don’t regret a thing.  🙂 

Post # 7
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250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

1. Ditto on the bachelorette/shower.

2. Ditto on the hair – my wedding hair was pretty, but not as elegant and timeless as I would have liked.

3. Forgetting to buy shoes for the 2-year old flower girl.  I thought her mother would take care of it.  She walked down the outdoor aisle in bare feet, but she’s wearing orange Crocs in all the pictures afterward.

4. I would have gone bigger with the bouquets.  My sister told me she thought bigger bouquets would overwhelm the dresses, but now that I look at the pictures, the smaller bouquets don’t look great.

It’s just a few little details, really – otherwise, my wedding was beautiful and more than I could ever have asked for.

@Miss Chapstick – aww, sorry to hear about your anxiety!

Post # 8
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250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@Missomally – why were people mad about your destination wedding?

Post # 9
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2000 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I didn’t have a bachlorette party, and I don’t regret that because I would’ve done what I normally did with my girlfriends…which was dinner & something fun. But, me & my husband were focusing on saving money for the wedding & honeymoon & not going out and blowing hundreds of dollards on one night of getting drunk.

But, one things I do wish I didn’t do at the wedding was drink as much prior to the ceremony. I pulled it together great, but some things aren’t as clear to me as they should be.

As for everything else I’m pretty happy about everything! 🙂

Post # 10
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

I wish I had thought through the costs of having a larger wedding party before asking everyone.  I would have only two attendants if I did it over.

 

I wish I had researched reviews of photographers more before selecting based on price alone.  “You get what you pay for” really bit me in the ass.

Post # 12
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618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@BubblyBride – Why were people mad about our destination wedding?  Two reasons: (1) Most of my family could not afford to go.  Actually, most of them have never even been on a plane, so they probably wouldn’t have gone even if they had the money!  I’m from a very small town, where almost all my family still lives, and even though I don’t live there, some of them were angry/disappointed that we didn’t get married there.  More for their own convenience.  (2) I think some guests were a little put off by our destination location.  We got married in the mountains in Jackson Hole, WY.  It’s a relatively hard place to get to (not really drivable) and it’s not a cheap place either.  It wasn’t crazy expensive like flying to Europe or Hawaii or anything like that!  We did the very best we could to get everyone discounts and great deals, but I think people were initially a little put off that we didn’t just get married in the town we live in (like they all did).  Does that make any sense? 

I will say though, every single person that came to the wedding said that it was a spectacular place and worth every cent it took to get there.  They realized how much we spent (and saved them) once they got there and were really appreciative.  I even had a few guests come up to me at the wedding and apologize for giving me a hard time.  It was a nice feeling to know that they fell in love with the place just as much as we did and didn’t regret coming.

Post # 13
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120 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I would have done a rehearsal – cut the rehearsal dinner out due to budget constraint. I would have realized that the outdoor ceremony was too long, at sunset, making it completely dark when it was finished. And the funny thing was the recessional song was “Here comes the sun…”

Post # 14
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250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

@Missomally – sorry to hear that.  But your attitude is fantastic – no regrets!  My feeling is that certain people will complain about weddings no matter what happens, and no matter how well you treat them.  You could have gotten married in your hometown, and certain people would still have found a reason to be mad.

Post # 15
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1016 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Just got married on Saturday and don’t really have many regrets – I would havebeen more organized with the seating chart and programs so I didn’t nearly pull my hair out on Friday.  Otherwise it was all good – I wish I could have talked to more people and danced more but those two things turned out to be mutually exclusive!!!

Post # 16
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618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@BubblyBride – Thank you!  What you said is exactly right, we knew we couldn’t please everyone, so we focused on pleasing the two most important people there…US!  It was our dream wedding and really reflected who we are as a couple.  The people that were there (we had 60 guests!) were completely spoiled and had an amazing time.  It was like going on a week long vacation with all our favorite friends and family members.  And it really was like a vacation and less stressful since we weren’t in our hometown worrying about everything.  And because it was smaller and spread over a few days, we really got to spend quality time with everyone.  I just loved it. 

Funny thing…the two couples that got engaged right after our wedding are BOTH having destination weddings this summer!  They obviously liked the concept!

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