(Closed) Now that my wedding is over I wish I would have…

posted 5 years ago in Recaps
Post # 4
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I WISH I could have removed a lot of the stress and anxiety I felt pre-wedding. I was OK for the most part, but I was nervous about walking down the aisle, making it through the ceremony without crying, our first dance, and dancing with my dad. Once all those things went well, I felt great!

I must say though, I had a Destination Wedding and didn’t obsess over small details. We didn’t have favors or a guest book, and I don’t regret that at all. I didn’t get an advance mockup of my centerpieces b/c I hired an amazing florist and knew he’d do something great. I did however pay an arm and a leg for a hair and makeup trial. It was worth every penny… it all comes down to what is important to you. My advice is to figure out what that is and focus on those things.

Good luck! πŸ™‚

Post # 5
3196 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Commenting to follow! Hopefully this attracts lots of married bees!

Post # 6
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I recently got married (April 7th). Things I would have done differntly would have to have had a MC at the wedding. I was soooo tired by the time I got to the reception that we forgot some toasts and the bouquet toss and garter toss…lol. Also, we had a photobooth type thing which kept most of my attention since everyone wanted to take pics with us. The photobooth was also outside the room so I think some of the guests felt neglected when we weren’t in the room. 


I also wish I had gotten a hair and make up trial and been more particular. I think I looked great, but I wish I would of looked AMAZING…lol. I also wish I took more pictures with the people who had come out of town for the wedding. 


Other than those things my wedding went pretty well, but then again I wasn’t a super picky bride and was pretty calm the whole day. If I could do it over I wouldn’t really change anything about the ceremony, but the reception would have definitely had a qualified and organized MC. My advice is to think about what you want to remember most and focus energy on that. 


Here’s a pic from our big day πŸ™‚

It pays to hire a great photographer! πŸ™‚




Post # 7
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wish we had hired a videographer – we seriously don’t remember much of the day, so even someone to film the speeches, or ceremony would have given us a little something extra to remember.

One other thing – wasn’t too urgent, but I wish we had at least practiced some dance moves before our first dance. We basically just shuffled back and forth until everyone else joined in! It was still fine, because we didn’t want our dance to be a spectacle, but I’ll never forget my husband standing in front of me before we started saying “Umm…what are we doing again?”

Post # 8
8487 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@bridetobe52414:  Theres actually a really long thread on just this subject (even has tons of pictures!) Let me try to find it.

Post # 9
1938 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@LadyElva:  +1! I wish I had hired a videographer! My uncle filmed it, but it has been almost a year and we haven’t seen or heard anything about it! 

πŸ™ We had some AMAZING speeches we wish we could hear again. 

Honestly, its a HUGE regret. 

Post # 10
5985 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

i wish i would have had a videographer and DOC. 


I wish that I would not have focused so much on budget. we had plenty of money but i was determined to be a budget bride and get everything as cheap as possible. I should not have cut the DOC and videographer. I was stressed due to me doing everything and we had a friend video tape and her camcorder cut out in the middle of the ceremony. yeah…that sucked


I would have kept the photographer at our wedding reception too to get more photos


Also, I would have organized a clean up crew and what I wanted done with all of the decorations, leftover food, etc. my drunk family threw everything away…including my cake…yeah….

one budget related thing I wouldnt have changed….having a cash bar. it kept people from getting crazy drunk. seriously i recommend a cash bar if you are worreid about certain people making bad decisions…

Post # 11
2179 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My only wish is that I had the money to hire a videographer. I’d love to see all the things I was too busy or not there to witness, as well as our vows and whatnot.

Post # 12
23636 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Another vote for videographer here. We are 1 1/2 years out, and everytime I see a beautiful wedding video, I think, “I wish I had that!” Other than that, no regrets! Really.

Post # 13
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I wish we would have thought to ask someone to box up a meal and cake for us to take to the hotel.  Seriously, there are probably other things to that were things I would have done differently or changed, but the one thing that stands out is remembering getting to the hotel feeling hungry.  Also we got two bites of cake and it was amazing and… yeah, I mourn that cake.

As far as the other stuff went, we shuffled back and forth for about 90 seconds of our song.  I’m glad we asked the DJ to make the father-daughter song and the first dance song super brief.  The timeline was fine and for the most part everything was fine.

Except I hiked the garter way up my thigh because I was afraid it would slip down… I should have probably put it an inch or two down, but not a big deal.  Not like the cake.

Post # 14
1380 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Following to see what everyone says! πŸ™‚

Post # 15
2287 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I wish I would have hired a DOC to handle the day of stress and vendors. It would have been nice to just be pampered and not have to do the set-up.

Post # 16
2082 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013


I would have possibly choosen the first dress I liked by Modern Trousseau.

I would have worn my hair half up/half down.

I would have chosen a different photographer.

I would have gave the photographer a list of photos I wanted to have taken.

I wouldn’t have purchased sparklers because everyone but 10 people left right after dinner.

I would have purchased invitations through a different vendor.

I would have purchased more elaborate centerpieces.


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