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    ilovenycmissie    September 2009   nyc

    Before getting married I hung out a lot. Gradually, friends are getting coupled up, engaged, married. I never did before, but I find myself wanting all my friends to be coupled up too, am I sticking my nose into other people's business; maybe because I have found bliss I cant fathom life before him anymore. I wish everyone else could have the same thing, I give advice but more often I'll stay mum because I dont want to come off as pushy. No one ever pressured me, but I've learned things along the way. Does this make me sound smug or would I really be doing someone a favor?

    some friends since I met them have not been attached since I met them a few years ago examples, one buddy is picky, guy's  short, too metroosexual etc, I want to encourage her to bring those walls down; another is conservative, I know she would attract even more attention wearing colors, more make-up especially in competitive NYC, I nudged her in this direction during shopping; other buddies have a real long list of do's and dont's i.e. guy should make more money, make at least x amount etc; am I being too busybody in wanting to advise my buddies? or should I just let things be, and allow fate to happen?

     
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    kingytobe    June 26, 2011  

    I don't exactly try to marry them off, but I do give them advice all the time as to how to meet someone who's marriage material- they ask, though, so its not unwarranted. "If you're blacked out drunk dancing on the bar, you aren't really sending out relationship vibes"- "if you walk up to a guy wearing 3 pounds of make up and can barely speak through your giggles- he has no idea who you are, your real personality is SO much cooler, just be yourself!"

     
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    Miss OBG    May 2011  

    I give advice to my little sister, who is in a relationship, about how to be a better partner and attract good people, but she's my baby sister, so I've always given her advice.  Basically, my single friends fall into two camps - the gorgeous confident ones who don't want to settle down (they certainly don't need my advice), and the ones who are always unlucky in love.  I unfortunately don't feel like I have much to offer in terms of meeting people, just on how to not get in your own way and let good things happen.  I'll occasionally drop a pearl of wisdom, but mostly I'm just supportive and quiet.  I guess I feel so lucky to have found my guy that I don't know what advice I'd offer someone else.

     
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    organizedbride11    November 11, 2011   Illinois

    I think I do. My friends joke with me that I love wedding planning to much so i should do it for a living otherwise as soon as my wedding is over I will be trying to plan theirs. I think its a sickness lol

     

     
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    MaybeeBecca    August 22, 2009   Kansas City, MO

    Haha....I don't necessarily try to marry them off (though a large number of my friends are doing pretty well with that on their own :-D) but my husband and I talk fairly often about who would make a good couple. We keep those observations to ourselves, though.

     

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