- 7 years ago
I’m sick with a cold today and just getting so frustrated and cranky with my SO right now. I love him to pieces, but is it so much to ask to drop everything and wait on me hand and foot while I’m sick? Okay, that’s an exaggeration.
But tonight a few of our friends are going out for dinner and drinks and I want to go because I’m bored of sitting on the couch sneezing. On the other hand, I know I need to take care of myself. So we’re going to go, but of course, *I* am going to be the one who has to drive home. In the rain. While I am sick, and tired because I was too sneezy to sleep last night. He ALWAYS volunteers to drive *to* the party so I will end up being the designated driver home. But I said, fine, let’s compromise. I’ll drive, but let’s just go out for dinner and maybe one drink, then come home early. That way we get out of the house, but I can still come home and take care of my sneezy self. But no, that was not acceptable, and he wants to stay out late. He then offered up that he stay out late, I stay home, and he’ll just stay at his friend’s place overnight (where we are going out). REAL NICE! That’s exactly what I want. Not.
Blah, just seems a little insensitive. I wouldn’t feel this way if every weekend, the most important thing was getting to go out with his friends. If we ended up just doing something low-key together, he would mope around and pout that we didn’t hang out with anyone. That makes me feel so much less important. I mean, we spent SO much time with his friends last weekend, and tomorrow they are going to practice softball together. What’s wrong with just seeing them for a couple of hours at dinner tonight?!?!?! I don’t get to see my own friends for weeks at a time…deal with it buddy!!!!
And I really don’t think it would bother me so much, but I see how motivated he is to go out with his friends or do fantasy baseball, but NOT to ask me to marry him, when there is nothing else holding him back. We agreed that after we moved in together we would be engaged soon after, but 6 months later, that is not the case. We also agreed that we wanted to get married next summer, but I always told him I wanted to be engaged for a year and a half. So one of those two things are not going to happen 🙁
So if any of y’all here at Camp Waiting are feeling the same frustrations today, you can vent to me.