Post # 1
Hi ladies! So my hubby and I are going to start TTC this spring! I’m thrilled to start trying but am trying to decide the best route for us. We are a young couple (I’m 25 and he’s 28) and have no reason to suspect infertility at this time. I am currently on BCP which I will be done with after two more packs. My husband is pretty oblivious and is certain I will be pregnant “on the first try,” so I’m not really asking his opinion if I should temp etc vs just discontinuing birth control and seeing what happens. (It doesn’t matter to him either way) So, here lies my current dilemma. I know a lot of bees are pro charting, and I think it’s great! I would absolutely consider temping and charting as it seems to be a very helpful and natural way of keeping track of ones fertility. My worry if I immediately start charting is that I will just obsess over every detail and not “enjoy” the TTC process. We are not in a rush although I’m sure once we start I will be desperate to be pregnant!
So, what would you do if you were me? Temp/chart immediately after stopping BC? Or just have lots of sexy time and see if it gives me my BFP? What was your experience?
Post # 3
I think if you aren’t in any particular hurry and have no reason to believe there will be issues, give it a few months of just trying by having lots of sexy time. I personally have not yet tried to get pregnant but from knowing people who have had issues, the constant “trying” and being somewhat consumed with temps and cycles and mucous and all that did add serious stress. So I am all for low stress until other action is required. If it’s been a few months and you aren’t pregnant then maybe start doing.some other stuff.
Post # 4
It can take a few months for your body to re-regulate after stopping bc & most doctors recommend waiting 2-3 months after stopping before actively trying. Don’t know if that would effect your 2 remaining packs & starting in the Spring?
I stopped my bc in April and started ttc in June. Only “chartting” based on my cycle assuming I ovulated at or around day 14. We got pregnant first month so my charthing experience is very slim. lol
I think just doing what you think will keep you most relaxed is going to be the best route. If temping helps you feel more control and less anxious with a new possibly erratic cycle then do that, if taking a NTNP approach keeps things fun & fresh then do that instead.
If you do want to chart though I think, personally, I would wait unitl my cycles started regulating some after stopping bc.
Post # 5
We took over a year to get pregnant with varying levels of TTC. Honestly, even knowing what I know now, I wouldn’t give up those first few months of relaxed, fun, romantic sex. It was so exciting to know that we could potentially be making our baby without the pressure of charting and timing BD.
Post # 6
We were convinced it was going to take ages to get pregnant, so we just decided to enjoy ourselves with a really fun sex life sans birth control. Never thought I’d get preggo on the first ride around the block, but here I am KU with twins! I know it certainly doesn’t happen for everyone, but low stress sexy time did the trick for us.
Post # 7
I’m pro-charting but you’re young, so it’s fine to just have fun with it for a while.
I began charting as soon as I stopped the pill because I’m a few years older and wanted to make sure I was ovulating normally. For me, it was really helpful to know my cycle and when to expect my periods and whatnot. But despite knowing when I was fertile, we didn’t try terribly hard to get pregnant. We started with a more casual approach, BD’d when we felt like it – and got a BFP on our second cycle without protection.
Post # 8
We were all for taking the NTNP approach after stopping BCP but when my period didn’t show up 30 days later I got excited that I might be pregnant! Several negative tests later, I started charting around CD40 and AF finally showed up on CD52. I’ve been charting since then and it’s really nice to know when and if I’ve ovulated. For me personally, NTPT is nice in theory but didn’t really work with my irregular cycles because I’d go crazy wondering if I was pregnant when AF didn’t show up. We are still really casual about trying because charting really doesn’t predict ovulation, especially when you’re irregular, and I don’t tend to obsess over it. However many ladies go crazy it the two week wait (you could not temp during the TWW to help reduce the obsessing).
Hopefully you’ll be regular right away! But if not which would make you more crazy? Knowing you’ve O’d and waiting to find out if you’re PG? Or not knowing if you’ve O’d yet with a missing AF?
Post # 9
Sounds like you should ditch the pills and have fun!
I started charting when I went off the pill, but I did not want to get pregnant at the time. I’m really glad I did because I didn’t get my period for more than four months after I went off the pill. I would have been freaking out about possibly being pregnant the whole time if I hadn’t known that I hadn’t ovulated and couldn’t possibly be pregnant. And now it’s nice because we don’t always need to use condoms (which makes my husband happy) and I know that I’m working as I should (which makes me happy — especially after not working for so long after going off the pill). Of course, when we do want to start trying won’t really be able to do so without me knowing when I’m fertile — I know my body really well now. But, I’m not the type to schedule sex or freak out over every symptom, so I don’t think it will be any less fun or exciting when we do try.
Post # 10
This is my first cycle off BCP, and we’re not charting or anything, but are trying to time BD slightly. I can’t believe it’s only three weeks since my last pill, because I’m already obsessed, despite not temping or really knowing what’s going on. I’m hoping my cycles are regular, but if they’re not then I might consider charting just to keep track. In the meantime, we’re trying to keep it loose and spontaneous, at least for the first couple months. Good luck to you!
Post # 11
I didn’t really think charting “took the fun out it” 😉 and I’m glad I did it, especially now because I had some legit red blood bleeding for 3 days that I assumed was my period (started right when I would have started my period, but I knew I had ovulated late bc of temping, too). Had I not been charting my temperature, I wouldn’t have even thought I was pregnant right now (my temperature stayed elevated, the ONLY reason I thought hmmm…something’s up). I’m afraid if I hadn’t been temping, I would have gone right on thinking I wasn’t pregnant, drinking, taking medicine you’re not supposed to take while pregnant, etc.
So I’m so glad I did it right away, but I’m the type of person who is pretty scientific and likes data and reassurance. But it’s totally up to you. I had no idea you had to have SO MUCH sex to make a baby, I mean technically you only need the one time, but if you do have sex a lot around ovulation, it ups your chances tremendously. Good luck in whatever you decide! 🙂
Post # 12
@SapphireSun: thanks for sharing…that is why I’d like to NTNP at least for a cycle or two. It just sounds so romantic!
@cowgirlace: I actually saw your story on the POAS boards (lurker alert!). I am pretty analytical as well and I would definitely like to have some idea as to what my body is doing. I have a friend who recently got PG and she was clued in that she might be pregnant because her temps stayed up too. Definitely puts a point in the charting column!
@terisa2012: that is such a great question and is the root of my dilemma between the two! I guess I will just have to wait and see what my body does.
thanks to all who responded! I think we will NTNP for the first cycle or two and maybe then start charting. Can’t wait to join those POAS threads!
Post # 13
We were NTNP because DH didn’t want sex to feel like a chore or a job. So, we just tried to have sex twice a week (sometimes more, sometimes less). There was absolutely no pressure.
I got pregnant the second month.
Post # 14
The first month off of my BCP, I didn’t chart or anything and I either got quite a few false positives or had a chemical pregnancy. The second month (this month, actually) I didn’t temp, but I tracked my cervical mucous and position, and paid really close attention to ovulation pains. I took Mucinex during all of my fertile days and laid in bed for at least 30 minutes after BDing to make sure too much of it didn’t leak out. (Although, they say it doesn’t really matter–I’m just crazy!) At 12DPO, I got a BFP! 🙂 I think just letting it happen is a great way to start off and if you don’t get your BFP in a reasonable (to you) time frame, then you can progress with tracking. If I didn’t get my BFP this cycle (my 2nd cycle trying), then I was going to start temping next cycle. Good luck!! 🙂
ETA: tracking symptoms/signs and BDing around them is kind of exhausting, btw. We BD 4 days in a row and my goodness was I sore. The last time during my fertile window, I had to REALLY make myself BD, bc it did not feel good. lol Sorry if that’s TMI, but we usually only do the deed 2-3 times per week, and usually not back to back, so this whole 4 days straight thing was painful! We also had done it two days before the first day of the 4-day streak, so it was 5 times in 6 days. OUCH! hahaha
I guess it was well worth it, though! So yeah, I guess my advice is to enjoy it at first and even if you start to track everything, still just try to be a little bit relaxed about it and make it special, not just babymaking. All of our BDing was great, up until that last one. =P
Post # 15
@crazydogmom: thanks for the advice! we are a 2-3 times a week couple too so I worry about that sometimes! I’m glad it worked out for you though haha! I think I can suffer through that for a BFP! 😉 PS I’m a crazy dog mom too!
Post # 16
@laaiinn: You’re welcome. I know it’s different for everyone, but I hope it helps! And yeah, seeing that BFP definitely makes you SO glad you put in all that hard work. 😉 haha
Awww I love my doggies. I love seeing other “crazy dog parents” on here. It makes me feel a little less crazy. 😉 Although, I do keep having a little big of guilt worrying if our dogs are going to be getting enough affection when the baby comes. Might be ridiculous, but they ARE my children right now (and still will be, even after the “furless” one arrives) and I just want to make sure they feel really loved. 😉 Most people think I’m crazy when I say that, but what can I say?! I also have a cat and a bunny that are my babies too. I just love all kinds of animals. I want my own little animal farm someday. lol