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My FH is a huge fan of Star Trek. He has been going on and on about having Betazoid (sp?) wedding, which I guess is where everyone is nude? At first I thought he was kidding, but he recently told me he was absolutely serious and his dream wedding is to get married naked.
Has anyone ever heard of someone doing this? I'm not sure how I feel about it (except that I'd need to spend a lot of time in the gym over the next 9 months LOL). Our families are pretty laid back, but still I'm not sure if they'd be offended. We'd probably have to cut our guest list way way back.
I'm just not sure what I think. This really is his dream wedding, and he is such a wonderful man that I do want to make him happy! 
Oh my goodness. No way ever that I would have a completely naked wedding! Is there anything else that he would like that's a compromise? Like costumes.
This is the most interesting post I've seen so far!
I think it's great that you want help your FI attain his dream of getting married nude, however it seems like you aren't really into it, which means you might end up regretting it sooner or later.
A possible solution: Just you and FI fly to a warm beach and get married in the nude! Then fly home and have a second wedding or just reception with clothing and all the guests that you want! That way you get the best of both worlds!
Seriously? I'm sorry but I'm always skeptical when someone's first post is something so....dramatic....
But, really, eek! I say "just no" to family and/or friends staring at my, ahem, well endowed lady parts. Plus, i'm not sure my SO could handle staring at me naked at the alter without having naughty thoughts about me. Which of course, would lead to other super awkward turtle moments.
I like Soon2beeMrsM's more, er, private idea....
Even if your families aren't prudes they may not appreciate you letting it all hang out.
Wow, that would make for a memorable wedding! If everyone involved is okay with it, then why not?
On the other hand... what is your dream wedding? And do you want people to be there that would be offended by a nude wedding (say, your grandparents or people of that nature)? I think it is always best to compromise, but as mentioned before, maybe you can get married on a beach in the nude or take a honeymoon/one year anniversary trip where you renew your vows in the nude?
I second MissSoon2be- if this is really what he wants the absolute most I would do is have a private ceremony on a beach somewhere, just you and him and a necessary witness (if really, really necessary. and blind.) and then do a normal wedding later.
Wow. I would never do that. More importantly, I can't imagine any of your guests would really want to see that. I imagine it would be very awkward for them. If he is serious, maybe you guys could do a private nude wedding with just you two and a witness, then have a subsequent wedding with all your friends and family there...and clothing!
Ok, I have to admite, I think getting married nude is a very cool idea. Joining your families and futures in a natural, open state. The issue is whether it is what BOTH of you want for your wedding. Are you willing to drastically cut the guest list so that you feel comfortable? Is it really what you want too? I like the ideas of having a personal ceramony in the nude, prior to the wedding.
Another idea I had was to make a screen of silk, muslin, leaves, grass, whatever material you like. You and your fiance could begin the ceramony robed, then pull the screen between yourselves and your guests and disrobe for the nude portion of the ceramony. Your guests will be able to hear your vows, but your bodies will be seperated. You can either emerge nude and married, or dress again before stepping out to soak up the love and well-wishes.
ummm I don't care if FI wanted to get married naked or not...maybe in his dreams LOL
I like the idea of a private ceremony. We've been kicking around the idea of eloping anyway (FH's job is shaky right now and weddings are expensive!). Just not sure it's what I want. I guess I could still wear my veil, right? Just nothing else. LOL! I have to give it some more thought, and no, I am not a troll. I have been reading this boards for a few months but have not really had anything to post until now.
I agree with everyone else; it's great that you want to help fulfill his dream wedding, but it is also YOUR wedding and if you aren't comfortable being nude or don't want to have to cut certain guests, you should try to compromise.
Aside from that, you are obviously not as into Star Trek as he is and if your guests aren't fans of Star Trek either, maybe the point/ origin of the of the nude ceremony will be lost on them. I would try to think of other (maybe more subtle) ways you could incorporate his love of Star Trek. My fiance is a fan of Star Wars, so I am making cufflinks out of Star Wars Lego men for him and all the groomsmen.
I hate to reveal my geek roots, but this is for real - Betazoid weddings are definitely done in the nude:
http://memory-alpha.org/en/wiki/Betazoid_wedding
When Deanna and Riker got married, they had two ceremonies: one clothed on Earth, and a separate nude one on Betazed. Maybe like suggested above, you could do a separate civil ceremony first in the nude? A lot of brides are doing that these days, especially with the tricky legal elements around destination weddings!
And I just want to say, this is my favorite post on Weddingbee... EVER!!!
wow. controversial! ummmmm I think a private nude wedding save everyone the embarassment- then a second more traditional reception? I am worried how my arms will look in my dress I can't imagine worrying about my entire epidermis! keep us posted with what you decide! very interesting!
very interesting...might be best to do that one in private!
I think it's cool your FH wants to do something so original! I probably wouldn't be comfortable with it, but if you would be, I say go for it! If you wouldn't be comfortable, I do like the idea of the ceremony with just you two. And since your considering eloping, then you can have a laid back reception when you get home. Maybe a backyard barbeque or something.
Oh man, the funny thing is, I literally said to my friends that are getting married "I will be happy with whatever you want to do for your weddings, as long as it is not a naked wedding, because I for sure won't get naked in front of all of you".
I think the suggestions above are great. You definitely run the risk of offending people/making people uncomfortable, so you'd have to be prepared for people not attending that you might want there if you don't choose the two ceremony option (or the covered option mentioned). Especially since, as Mr. Bee pointed out, they had two ceremonies on Star Trek itself!
Well, if that is what you guys want, more power to you. Just remember your guests..
I know I've got some family members I don't want to see in the buff...
Ok.. this is definitely a very interesting little post here.. my personal opinion is no way in hell would i ever have a nude ceremony nor would i rsvp to a nude ceremony. I could not sit there and focus on whats being said.. maybe i am too immature for this kind of thing but looking at grandpas junk is not something i would ever want to encounter. I could not take something like this serious and i can guarantee my face would be red like a tomato from embarrassment. I give you credit for thinking about it but my answer is a big fat no to this idea lol
I would never do or consider something like this, but if you guys are both really into it, I don't see anything wrong with a private ceremony. I definitely would not try to force this on guests, though.
Wow, what a great thread! Welcome to Weddingbee, and major props for opening with world's best thread. :)
There is something uniquely appealing about the thought of a nude wedding....I definitely see the symbolism of being totally open and vulnerable to your partner. I don't know if I would want my guests nude though....haha.
Why don't you talk with your fiance and discuss why this is so appealing to him? Does he want the feeling of love/vulnerability/openness? Is he just identifying with his favorite show? Then come back and share his thoughts because I for one am dying to hear.
There are probably ways to get that feeling or identification on your wedding day, with clothes---since as you said, your families probably would be offended and you sound like you would be uncomfortable with this if it were real. Perhaps some Star Trek themed elements to the wedding? Your own private ceremony in the nude (the legal one being with family and clothes)? Sneak out of your house in the middle of the night and say your vows naked in the backyard?
I say, don't dismiss the idea just because it sounds crazy...there's probably a way to make it work so that everyone is happy and comfortable.
I don't know...I just could never do something like that! Would you really consider doing this?
Woa.
My brother-in-law is a Trekkie and all he asked for was a grooms cake in the form of the Borg cube. We thought that was strange.
Maybe you can do the same?
Good luck and congrats!
I have never ever heard of such a thing and I don't consider myself a sheltered person. No matter how far your cut your guest list back, I think your acceptance rate would be really LOW. I can say for sure, even if it was my sister or best friend I would NOT attend a nude wedding. No way, no how. No matter how good I look, it ain't happenin'. And, I wouldn't want to be seeing Old Uncle Mark's junk either. I'm sorry, but YUCK!
I would have to say no to this one - I am a trekkie as much as the next, but c'mon. A naked wedding? That's a serious... cultural issue. Then you have naked guests, naked parents (cringe), etc. Nope, unless it was a private ceremony (bride, groom and officiant) and then a clothed reception... I would have to nix it. Just my 2 cents.
Bella
So its the guests naked too? I mean, not that it would make a difference for me, but then its like... everyone is wearing (not wearing?) the same thing has the bride!
I would never, ever do this, even if it was my FH's dream wedding! I think the best solution is what everyone else has said- do a private ceremony in the buff, and do your actual wedding with clothes on.
Very interesting, though! I've never heard of this before!
This would totally make shopping for a bridal gown WAY easier :)
This reminds me of the episode of Friends where Phoebe donates all her wedding money to charity & as she's telling Monica she is going a different way, Monica screams "I told you I'm not going to a naked wedding!!"
I wouldn't ever be able to do this... but good for those people who can! lol
I missed this thread the first time around, but I keep thinking... what would the officiant wear? It strikes me as a little... unseemly... to preside over the wedding completely nude.
Are the guests naked too? If so, do you REALLY want to see your guests naked? Like, even Grandma and Uncle Bob?? Would you plan to have alcohol and dancing? If so things could get very creepy!!! And would people eat naked and sit on chairs naked?? There is no way I would sit in a chair that a stranger has sat on while NAKED (and no I don't sit on public toilets.)
WOW...If that's what makes you happy then go for it! But I personally would never do it.
We're getting married in November, so it wouldn't work well for us, but I too think it'd be kind of cool! Um. I wouldn't do it. But I think it would be cool. Besides, FI and I have already pledged our lives to each other while naked several times, so. We're good.
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