- Broken Biscuit
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
You are the bride. You get to dictate how many people see you and in what condition.
Can you step into your dress, or do you need help putting it over your head?
If you can step into it, usher the other girls out until your ready to help get done up. Otherwise, just pick the girl your most comfortable helping, and tell the other girls they can come in when you are ready.
You are perfect and don’t let anyone tell you any different. I too am a size 4 and 34B cups (We are Twins!!!).
If you do not want your FMIL to see your sexy night-of-the-wedding-gear, then don’t wear it around her! Get dressed before she comes in or wear something else. I know it’s a pain, but it’s YOUR day and the last thing you want to feel is uncomfortable.
Sorry for ranting, congrats!
@metalbride: Yup this; if you really need assistance, maybe choose just one person (your own mom?) to help you do the most revealing getting ready stuff in another room while everyone waits in an adjacent room.
And I am right there with you on annoyance at your sister’s comments; I’m a frikkin 32AA and do not need a boob job, woo!!
I feel for you. You shouldn’t have to put up with that. Demand your privacy on that day and only have someone supportive of you help you with getting dressed. You’re the bride and you make the rules on your wedding day, lol.
Do you have friends who you would feel comfortable getting ready with, even if you don’t feel comfortable with your family? Or could you pay one of the women from the dress shop to come and help dress you?
It also sounds like your sister’s bitchy comments are just a manifestation of her own insecurities.
Definitely only have people there with whom you feel comfortable. You have NOTHING to apologize for!! There is no law that says you need to feel comfortable being naked around people, even if they’re your family.
If you want to have them around during general “getting ready,” maybe just go into a separate room to put the dress on? If you need help with it, is there anyone you would feel more comfortable with than the moms/sisters? NM, just saw that there won’t be.
Yeah, just have them step out for a minute. Or use a robe for modesty. That’s what I did I think. Like wear robe and undergarments and then slide dress up under it and then take robe off.
I had a cousin who is really, really shy too but on her wedding day, she was so overwhelmed that she told me she didn’t even think about who saw her.
Not saying you’ll feel that way. I’m pretty sure my cousin’s MIL wasn’t in the room with her. I think I’d just have my own mother help me get ready. You can just tell everyone else it’s some mother/daughter bonding if you don’t want them to know you’re uncomfortable.
I think it’s really messed up that she is criticizing you. She’s clearly trying to make you feel self conscious because she is not happy with her figure. I had a friend like that once..she was always putting me down and I never once called her fat even though she was. I brought that to her attention and she apologized. Maybe if you bring it to your sister’s attention, she will hush up and deal with her own issues?
I can totally relate to not wanting people to see me in my stuff. I’ve got a big puffy dress that I can just step into, so I think I will be gettnig ready alone! 😀
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