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How big is everyones' wedding party? Anyone feel once you hit a certain number it gets to be too much? I feel like I don't want it too big, but at the same time I don't want people to feel left out! Do you go - bride picks the bridesmaids and groom pics the groomsmen - or end up with a ton of people?! Help!!
Mine won't be too much help as i am having a very small wedding party. I will have a MOH, BM, FG, RB and an Usher. We were going to have 6 or so on each side (bride picked BMs & Groom picked GM) but when we selected our venue we scaled down a lot. It really is a matter of preference.
I think every bride has this problem. Remember it is your wedding have whoever you want to be involved.
Myself I didn't was a large bridal party so I have my only sister as my MOH, my Fiancees sister & one of my cousins as bridesmaids.
My Fiancee had a harder time picking so he has his brother & two of his closest friends all as best men.
However big or small your bridal party will be I'm sure you will have a beautiful day.
We will be having 1 MOH and 3 bridesmaids, with 1 best man and 3 groomsmen to match. I think it is a matter of preference; invite those who mean the most to you and don't feel constrained by what's traditional or preferred. Good luck! 
I am having 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen. He picked the guys and I picked the girls with the understanding that if either of us had friends or family of the opposite sex we would like in the wedding the other would have to include them. Luckily it worked out really well for us.
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We're having 3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, and 2 flower girls. Oh, and one of the flower girls has a 1 year old sister who is a "honorary flower girl" so she matches the big girls.
We decided to just keep it simple. My sister is my MOH and my fiance's brother is his BM. We'll have ushers and a ringbearer but that's it. I haven't found one person that feels I should have included more people...
We are having 18 people in our wedding party. It seems like a lot to people but there was noone we could live without :)
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We are having 1 MOH, 4 BM /1 Best Man, 4 GM a flower girl and possibly a ring bearer. The number was kind of determined by me since I have 3 sisters and I also wanted FI's sister plus my best friend so 5 it is!
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We have a fairly large wedding party: 1 MOH, 5 bridesmaids, 6 groomsmen, 1 flower girl, 1 ring bearer.
Initially, I wanted to keep it to 4 or 5 bridesmaids/groomsmen, but it was just so hard to pick from my very best friends. So, I have 6 girls, and he has 6 guys (including my brother and his sister). I don't regret it at all, because now I have more people to help and there is no jealousy/cattiness because all the BFFs are involved. They're truly my best friends, so I can't imagine getting married without them by my side. :)
I've been to weddings where there were like 10 bridesmaids, and it was fine! It all just depends on who you want to be by your side... there is no magic #.
Just don't have 27 bridesmaids like in the movie "27 dresses" HAHA!
I've read that the number in your party should relate to the number of guests you're expecting at your wedding. In other words, you wouldn't want 20 attendants at a wedding with 100 guests. If you're having a large wedding, go for the big bridal party. We had around 175 guests and went with 3 BM and 3 GM. It felt just right for us.
we're having a pretty big wedding party too. I have my MOH & 7 bridesmaids & a junior bridesmaid, and my FI is having a BM & 7 groomsmen and we're having a ring bearer, but no flowergirls... no little girls in either of our families!
I know it seems like a pretty big wedding party, but I can't imagine our wedding without our closest friends (and siblings) standing by our sides!
I'm having about 160 guests. 2 MOH, 1 bridesmaid + 2 best men, 1 groomsman.
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3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen and 2 ring bearers. IMO, it was just enough!
We are having about 250 guests and I am having 7 or 8 attendants. Yes, two months out, I'm still not sure. I have asked 8, but my sister (who is supposed to be my Matron of Honor) has been on the fritz since January and won't respond to any emails or calls so I have no idea if she will be there. Crazy, I know...
I am having 150 guests, with 4 bridesmaids and 4 groomsmen. I was part of a wedding several years ago that had 12 bridesmaids and 12 groomsmen and everything turned into a bit of a circus. I know that they loved all of their friends dearly, but as a part of the mayhem I wish they had limited the numbers or been more organized.
6 bridesmaids, 6 groomsmen. wedding party is 14 with us, and we have 115 yes's. We just realized our rehearsal dinner invite list is 1/3 of the guest list. Oh well! =]
we plan to have roughly 150 guests.......3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen (including MOH and Best Man) 
We're having 5 BM and 5 GM with only about 150 guests. I feel like that's a bit large for the size of wedding we're having, but I don't care! We love our bridal party and it's our wedding! :)
We invited 280 and are having 7 BMs and 7 GM. It was originally going to be only 4 of each, then we decided to factor in his sister/my brother...and it kind of snowballed from there! I do feel happy to have them all though, and this way there are no regrets.
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What's the rule about having one bridesmaid/groomsman for every 50 guests? Do people follow that? I am also having trouble picking bridesmaids and don't want to be inappropriate. What baout 250 guests and 7 bridesmaids... does anyone think that's excessive?
I never followed any rules! I asked who I wanted, and that was that. I don't understand that rule! Why force yourself to ask people you wouldn't have otherwise asked because you have a lot of guests? Just my opinion :)
We are having 5 BMs and 5 GMs. I almost felt like that was too many, but at the same time, it will help with costs for the bridal shower, etc. for there to be more gals. Maybe that's the wrong way to think about it, but I wouldn't want anyone to feel too burdened by the cost of being a bridesmaid. I also just couldn't decide between these ladies. They've all been there for me during different times in my life. And, the photography-aware side of me loves how pictures look with 4-5 BMs and GMs.
This was an issue at first but I finally decided on 3 BMs and my MOH and our flower girl... I picked them for obvious reasons... my best friend, my roommate, my cousin, and my aunt... but I do have 3 girlfriends I've made in my adult life who I wanted to include. But I felt 8 on each side was just too much... plus The Cowboy just doesn't have 8 guys friends to include...lol
My girlfriends told me not to worry about it since I haven't known them as long and they understand but I really wanted them to be honored... so I made them my B-list Beyotches. It's a little joke among us and they will have their own cordinating color to dress in and corsages and get their makeup and hair and everything done with us. They just won't walk down the aisle... We all agreed it was a nice compromise and I'm so happy they are cool with it.
The Cowboy picked my flower girl b/c I really am not close to any children but he is... and we won't have a ring bearer b/c like I said I'm not close to any children... altho I do love them :-/
When I first got engaged it was ZERO. Yep... I thought it would be sooo romantic to just have the 2 of us go at it alone. But now, as the wedding planning begins, I've realized I can't do that to my best friends & I realized I'll definitely need their help! Now it's 2 BM, 1 FG, 1 RB, and 2 GM. We're having a small wedding with *hopefully* no more than 75 guests.
Still, with only 2 BMs I've upset a lot of GFs... many just assumed they would be my BM followed by me breaking their hearts. So it's a lose-lose situation. It would have been easier to say "no bridesmaids" but then my very BFF's would have been really hurt. Ugh!
In the end though, Nick & I eventually get what we want... we're having our religious ceremony in Canada w/ the big dress and the BMs & we'll have our legal ceremony (just us!) in the US.
I am having my sis as my MOH and FI sister as a bridesmaid. FI is having his BFF as his BM, younger brother GM, and his younger brother that passed away a year ago will also be up there with us in spirit. We will have a pedestal with a candle where his spirit will be!
3 flowergirls and 1 ringbearer.
hmmm we're still hashing this one out...we've got plenty of time to decide as we're planning for over a year away... anyways as of right now its bm, moh 4 bm and gm a junior bm and gm...he'd like to cut it back one gm but i'm not willing to yet. we've been to a wedding where the numbers were different on each side and didn't like it so we're trying to stay equal without having too many people.
I have 1 MOH, 4 Bridesmaids, 1 Jr. Bridesmaid, 2 flower girls, 1 ringbears, 1 best man, 3 groomsmen (so far). My wedding party has grown significantly bigger than I had originally planned. I originally only had 1 MOH, 2 bridesmaids and the Jr. . However, we've been planning a while and relationships change. We added a close couple friend of ours. One of my brothers is going in to the air force and may not be here, so there is the lack of groomsmen.
Basically, we each picked out own, but he knew he had to include my brothers and son! His nieces are the flowergirls, so it may not be completely even, but it all worked out.
I will be honest, if I could go back, I would stick to 1 MOH and maybe 2 BM's and that is it! I really want the other girls present as well but I could have found something else for them to do. Now, since we have such a large party, I can't do as much for them as I wanted to.
We have a huge wedding party and everything is running fine. I have 10 girls and he has 10 guys!
I'm having 1 Maid of Honor, 1 Matron of Honor, 5 bridesmaids, 1 Best Man, 6 groomsmen, 1 Junior Bridesmaid, 2 flower girls and a Ring Bearer. It seems large, but there wasn't anyone I could do without!!
We had 230 guests and our bridal party included 4 bridesmaids, 4 groomsmen. I think you can pretty much do whatever you feel comfortable with and makes you happy. But like some have said, if you are having a small wedding, it might looks odd if you have a HUGE wedding party. Good luck!
I'm having 2 bridesmaids and 1 maid of honor, my sister. He's having 2 grooms men and best man, his brother. I worry about something might happen to him like that movie that just came out The Hangover where the guys just loose him after the bachelor's party.
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We are having 1 MOH and 1 matron of honor, 2 jr bridesmaid(my daughters), 3 bridesmaids, 1 FG, 1 RB, 1 Bestman, and 4 groomsmen. We both had family members we wanted to stand by our sides on that day
I think there are pluses and minuses to both. I had a small wedding party (one MOH plus 2 bridesmaids). I liked that because it wasn't too hectic on the day of, I was able to save money on flowers and hair and make up, and I got to buy them nice gifts because there were only three. We also got to do fun stuff like go to the spa together (my mom's treat), it was easier to coordinate with them, and we all knew each other from college and were friends.
I was also in a wedding where there were six bridesmaids plus 1 MOH. The good parts of this were that it was a lot of fun to be 8 of us together, the bride had a lot of support around her (which was a big plus), and she was able to include her old friends, her college friends, and her new sisters-in-law. The downfall was, it's a lot of people to coordinate, and there were some inter-bridal party issues (the bride didn't know about them), mostly because the MOH didn't really know any of the rest of us.
I have 5 BM's and one MOH. I feel like it's perfect because we all know each other (except for one BM, a childhood friend of mine from Cali) so it's not like there is any clashing of personalities. Our group melds together nicely.
I personally am having 5BMs including a MOH, and he has the same on his side.
But he was recently in a wedding where he was one of 12!! groomsmen, and we were just at a wedding this weekend where there were 8 ppl on each side (There were about 250 guests at each event). A wedding consultant told me that the acceptable number is going up and the average number is around 6 bridesmaids, so I'm glad to hear that so many of you ladies are keeping it "relatively" small.
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As of right now we're just having a maid of honour and a best man (my best friend, and one of his close friends, respectively). If we change our minds and want to add more people, we'll probably just have one bridesmaid and one groomsman (my sister, his brother).
I just researched this because I saw a wedding party with 12 bridesmaids and thought it was RIDICULOUS, how can you be THAT close with 12 different people? You'd do nothing but spend time with other people!
To answer the question, we each have 5 on our sides and a ring bearer and flower girl for a 100 person wedding.
I have 3. I could have made it bigger, but once we thought about what it would be like trying to get dresses, extra costs for flowers, etc., we settled on 3. One is my sister.
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