Number of bridesmaids vs groomsmen?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1242 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

@May312014:  You can have as many guys or girls you want. I personally say go with the people who are close to you guys and not who you FEEL you need to add. However, I am also about symmetry and I think it would try me crazy in the pictures not to have it.

Post # 4
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@May312014:  Every BM is one more person who might make you tear your own hair out later. So if you only want the three, only have the three!

Post # 5
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457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

The bridesmaids and groomsmen should be walking eachother down the aisle, for that purpose, it’d be awkward. And for pictures if the whole party is there, it might be awkward. I’m having 3 bridesmaids and my FI is having 3 to be even for that purpose. He could have more than that though, but I couldn’t. I’m not close to that many people as he is. One of my bridesmaids, I wasn’t originally planning to be a bridesmaid, but I need 3 if he’s having 3. But overall I don’t think it’s a seriously big deal.

 

Post # 7
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2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@May312014:  It’s really no big deal. I had 6 bridesmaids and hubby had 3 groomsmen and it worked out. Pictures looked fine and we played with a few different ways for walking down the aisle, but I’m sure whatever you decide on will be fine.

Here’s our whole wedding party:

 

Post # 8
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75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I had 5 bridesmaids, 1 jr. bridesmaid, and my DH had 7 groomsmen. One of the BM was my now sister-in-law and 2 of his groomsmen were his brothers so they both escorted her down the aisle. It worked out just fine to have an uneven line with the bridal party. I honestly think it doesn’t matter whether it is even or not, it’s your wedding do what’s best for the both of you! =) 

Post # 9
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

I think that because the wedding party is such a personal choice, that if you only want three people, then have only three people. Nothing says that the GM and BM HAVE to walk down the aisle together. I would do what feels best for you!

 

Post # 10
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1531 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@May312014:  I had this issue and it was also 3 vs 6. I was stressed out about it buspit turned out beautifully. Here’s some pics so you see it wasn’t weird:)

Post # 13
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1793 posts
Buzzing bee

In all honesty it is a pet peeve of mine when people ask someone to take on the expense/time/etc required of a GM or BM just so they can be a place holder in a picture for symmetrical sides.  That is treating someone like a prop rather than an honored friend/relative.

 

@NewfieBullet:  your pictures are gorgeous and your photographer was a true professional. This is a shining example of why symmetry is ridiculous for the sake of symmetry.

Post # 14
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2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@hermom:  Exactly, it’s nice if it works out but it’s not at all necessary to have equal numbers. And thanks, I was lucky to have my photographer, she was fantastic.

Post # 15
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@May312014:  Hhehe you probably figured out what you want to do … But I am doing an uneven number. He is having a best man and three groomsmen, while I am having a man of honour and two bridesmaids. I would not have someone just to have an even number.

Post # 16
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9529 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Woo Hoo for uneven numbers! I had uneven numbers (5 on my side and 4 on his side) and mixed genders on my side (gasp!).

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