Post # 1
So I have a question that I’ve been going over in the back of my head for a while now. I’m a full-time nurse that works night shift (three 12 hour shifts/week). In April, I’m starting a part-time online graduate program to get my master’s degree in nurse midwifery. The program will take me about 3 years to complete (2 years classes and 1 year of clinical). Currently I’m 28 and SO is 35 so when I complete the program we will be 31 and 38. I always wanted to start a family before I reached 30 and I know my SO has been wanting children for years. My question is to any one balancing grad school, work and starting a family… is being pregnant in grad school doable? And if there’s any nurse bees who were pregnant during school or know of anyone who was… what their experience was like, espeically with clinicals.
It’s been my dream to be a nurse midwife but I also want to plan ahead for a future family. I was thinking maybe getting pregnant at the end of the second year…
Post # 3
Medical school student bee here–with a 4-month old. I am in the second half of my third year, so clinical year basically! I was pregnant during my second semester of second year (still classroom mostly), studied for and took boards part 1 pregnant, and did my first rotation hugely pregnant. Took one 8-week rotation off for “maternity leave,” and now I’m back in full swing if school with a baby. It is DEFINITELY challenging, but with clinicals, I feel like any other working parent I guess–too bad I’m paying a bunch of money to “work” all day though! The hardest part is trying to balance my time in the evenings and on weekends…I’d much rather just hang out with my baby at night than study, so I will try tI get a little studying in when he is asleep at night and napping on weekends. To be honest, though, I do feel like I’m not the best student I can be, but I don’t really care because now my son comes first, and I would rather look back and say I actually spent time with him than look back and have gotten better grades and not spent as much time with him. Passing = a doctor! I’ve gotten over being towards the top of the class a long time ago. I also have a supportive husband and most importantly, I had a supportive school and administrators. They understand that med school years usually = child bearing years, so they have also really gotten very flexible for those who want to have babies during school. Granted, I still have to make up my missed rotation, and I only got 5.5 weeks home with my son, but, that was more my choice so I could still graduate on time. Anything is possible if you are motivated enough, including having babies while in grad school 🙂
(ps my mom is an APRN and got her masters with 4 kids under 4 years old (twins lol), she is super woman!)
Post # 4
@cowgirlace: Thank you for your reply. That’s great that you were able to balance both medical school and starting a family. Did you have any issues with morning sickness that caused issues in clinicals? I think one of my other concerns is that I want to enjoy being pregnant and planning for my first child, not feel like I’m too busy and stressed to enjoy it. Did you ever feel that way?
I’m hoping since the program I’m in is for midwifery, that they would be extra understanding and accomodating to pregnant students. Not sure if that will be the case though.
Post # 4
NightOwl27: honestly i think it really depends on the woman’s pregnancy and their support system. I knew a gal that birthed 3 children back to back while in nursing school. She was a straight A student with lots of family support to help with the kiddos.
Someone I know developed Pre-eclampsia and had to take a semester off.
Post # 5
NightOwl27: We had multiple people pregnant during nursing school. And as you obviously know, it was pretty much clinicals for the full two years. We only had one drop out but she probably would have anyway because she didn’t put any effort in. I’d say we had at least 8 or 9 total though.
Post # 6
I’m a nurse and have a few coworkers who are going for their master’s degrees with little kiddos at home. It’s definitely doable! I’m sure your preceptors will understand if you are sick from pregnancy- they are midwives after all 🙂
A little off topic, but may I ask where you are going to school? I am waiting to hear back for an interview in L&D (I’ve worked ER for 2 years) and am considering going to school for NP or CNM in the next few years