- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
So… my FI and I found a house (spec house) that we love and we signed the sales contract to buy it Sunday (yay!!!!).
The good: I absolutely love the house and in the end, I believe we got a good deal on it. Also… no matter how much this sucks now we have to close by the end of January and that means it will all be over soon enough.
The bad: I am so stressed and overwhelmed I want to cry all the time. Why?
1- My FI is working crazy crazy hours and has had no time to really help me with much of anything from contacting realtors, to looking at houses, to negotiating, etc. I do all of the leg work, ask all of the questions, make all the phone calls and emails, and present him with the final product options. Note: I don’t blame him for this– his work really is crazy and there is nothing he can do about it. I am just FRUSTRATED that I am doing it alone.
2- Long before we were engaged or planning on buying a house (this summer) My FI booked a 2 week trip to NY to see his family. Once again– he hasnt been home in 2 years and the trip has been booked forever. I’m glad he’s going and i don’t hold it against him… but I’m frustrated that it is creating all this drama bc everything has to be done before he goes.
3- could buying a house be any freakin harder? i can’t get a straight, honest, answer from anyone. First fees were 800. then they’re 2000. Then they’re 7k? WHAT THE HELL PEOPLE. And the mortgage people???? Act like I’m a @#[email protected]# psycho for questioning them on terms rather than just signing on the dotted line.
4- Everyone I try to talk to this about (my family or friends) just throws 342 questions at me making me feel like I’m stupid and like I don’t know whats going on or throwing suggestions at me when I don’t really want or need that because BELIEVE ME I have been through hundreds of emails and hours on the phone and I am doing this the very best way that I can under the circumstances.
Bottom line: Circumstances conspired and I am @#[email protected] stressed out yo. I am not mad at anyone in particular I’m just mad at the situation and that because of tax credit deadlines and vacations and other circumstances it has to be this way. I’m stressed out and my FI is mostly absent for it and I can’t complaint to family or friends because in trying to be helpful they just stress me out more.
so I guess I dont really know why i’m posting except i’m sad that something that IS so happy (yay for a new house) is such a huge pain in the ass and so stressful and i just needed to vent. In 2 mo this will all be over, papers will be signed, we’ll be moved in, and it will be what it will be.