NWR – So annoyed with my family

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1167 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@gemchick82:  That’s… crayzay! Umm that was an extremely rude email, coating rudeness with fake sugary smiles just doesn’t work!

My response would be something along the lines of “I don’t have room/can’t bring them. Please ask someone else.”

You’re being used like a door mat sweetie, and I get so insanely angry at families like yours who use and abuse the nicest person in the family!

This is also close to me, poor FI is the nicest person you have EVER met. Like, seriously. He will fit whatever you want done into his tiring schedule however he can. Oh aunty wants you to pick up someone 15 minutes out of town and drive them to her house 15 minutes the other side of town in the middle of the day? No! Such and such wants your help doing XYZ when we had plans? HELL NO. He’s only gotten a backbone since we’ve been together!

Post # 4
11604 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hmm.  Is there any way you can say you have another engagement and will actually be late to their event, so you can’t bring the table and chairs?  That, of course, means you’d have to show up late, but it might make the point. 

Otherwise, be honest and just say no. 

Post # 5
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

email her back with dates and times that she can come to your house and pick them up.

Post # 6
7207 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

She can pick them up in advancd. Frankly do let this becom  your problem again, this isnt for you to solve. 

Post # 7
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

tell her if she needs the chairs, she can “swing by” and pick them up.

or buy some herself.  they sell folding chairs at BBB for 19.99 and you can use the 20% or $5 off coupon to make them 14.99.


Post # 8
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wow,… I’m with the other ladies when they say this is NOT your problem.

I can understand wanted to help, be polite, etc, but these people seem very ungrateful and expect you to bend over backwards at every request 🙁

Tell them, “too bad, so sad.” They shouldn’t be placing this on you!

Post # 9
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

You are going to the get together-correct? I guess I don’t see what the big deal is to throw a set of folding table and chairs in the car every once in a while. I can see why she wouldn’t want to rent tables and chairs when its a family get together and someone in the family use to have no problem bringing the set, so she asked. You asolutely have the right to say you don’t have the room in the car though too.

Post # 10
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

That’s very rude and ungrateful.  It is a tricky situation because I can understand that no one lives close enough to help but you shouldn’t have to be the only one to bring anything.  Maybe you should send out a mass email saying that you’ve decided that this is to much stuff to bring all at once and would like for some of the family to help out.  If someone offers to help maybe they could store some of the stuff at their place instead of having to drive to you place and back everytime.

Post # 11
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

“sorry, but we don’t have room in the car for chairs and a table. please rent or buy them. see you soon!”

you’re being used. don’t fall for it.

Post # 12
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@gemchick82:  I would respond that they are more than welcome to pick them up and borrow them for the weekend.  You aren’t required to provide them with things they need to entertain other people and you certainly shouldn’t be expected to carry it all 4 hours away and back.  They are extremely rude for asking in the first place.

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