Post # 1
I feel like the silliest person EVER, but I have the worst anxiety when it comes to making phone calls to people I don’t know.
It’s the time of year when everyone is searching for apartments where I live (almost everyone lives on a July to June lease), so I really need to start calling places I’m interested in if I don’t want to miss the opportunity, but it’s so daunting! Especially when I have to call in my second language – I’m not perfectly bilingual, and on the phone it’s even harder because I can’t follow the person’s non-verbal cues. Building up the confidence to make a phone call should not be this hard, right?
Someone else tell me they feel the same way! I feel really silly and would actually consider asking Future Mother-In-Law to call for me if that wouldn’t make me the biggest loser ever…
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I hate calling strangers on the phone. I won’t even call to order pizza unless there is no other option. Luckily, you can do so much online now, but I had to use the phone a lot for wedding planning. Drove me nuts.
Post # 4
@kittyface: I have the same problem. I just *hate* talking on the phone. It’s hard to explain why, but I used to have fairly serious social anxiety. I’ve gotten over most of my anxiety, but for some reason, I just can’t feel comfortable calling people on the phone. My H hates it, because I always make him call.
Post # 5
OMG I feel the same way. I hate even ordering a pizza!
Post # 6
I hate talking on the phone! I have gotten so much better, because I have had no choice (I take care of the bills, etc., and any issues that come up), but I hate phones in general. It just isn’t for me.
I leave my cell on silent and check it when I remember (no more than once a day!)
Post # 7
I used to be like this, but ever since working as an administrative assistant, Ihave found that this is happening less and less.
Post # 8
Ditto. Phone anxiety. Hate it. Actually hate talking on the phone in general, even with friends.
Post # 9
me too!! it took me forever to get up enough courage to call my vendors. i will sometimes write out what i need to say and just go off of that.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
I haaaaaaaaate talking on the phone, and I’m a reporter. I wish everyone worked by email.
Post # 11
I used to be afflicted by this, but really, practice will help you out the most. I used to despise calling people, and would have to give myself a pep-talk, but calling folks was a part of my first job’s description. It got easier and easier. Now, it’s nothing. You’ll be ok!
Post # 12
I seriously thought I was the only person to have this issue. I’ve gotten a lot better in the last couple years, but most of the time I have to give myself a serious pep talk and take deep breaths before I call someone. I also HATE calling people in front of other people…so weird.
Post # 13
Me too!! I used to call patients to confirm appointments at an eye clinic, and I made myself do it because I was paid to do it.But I hated it. But Darling Husband usually makes calls for me. I don’t know what it is about making a phone call that is so terrifying!!!
Post # 14
“Phone anxiety” doesn’t even accurately describe it for me. I’ve taken to calling it “phone phobia.” The only people I can talk to on the phone without sweating and feeling nauseated are my immediate family members.
Extended family is difficult, which is embarrassing. Complete strangers are 100 times worse. Things like making doctor’s appointments or calling my insurance company are seriously taxing for me. The worst is when I finally build up the nerve to make a call, and the person does not answer. I’m half relieved that I didn’t actually have to talk to them and half annoyed that I have to call again.
Post # 15
Ahhhh I feel so much better that I’m not the only one! I live for email and ordering pizza online… Since Fiance doesn’t live in the same country anymore I can’t make him do my phone calls and I’ve had to be a big girl and do it myself. Ugh.
I actually used to work in call centres for summer jobs years ago, so I really don’t get why it’s so difficult for me to get the nerve to make a call. I guess it’s something to do with calling out, rather than answering a call – if you’re calling me, you want to talk to me, but maybe if I’m calling you I’m bothering you. I just feel a lot better that I’m not the only one!
@StuporDuck: I definitely did a pep talk, had Fiance give me a pep talk (and remind me of certain words I couldn’t remember), I (no joke) practiced out loud a few times and then got the nerve to just call for an apartment I really want… And I got voicemail, ha. I guess at least I left a pretty polished message 😉
Post # 16
I haaaaate calling people that I don’t know. My husband says that I immediately switch into “phone mode” and I sound like some kind of ditzy fake girl because I get so nervous haha. My office mates also tease me because I’ll email someone that’s basically 3 doors down the hall because I just totally avoid face to face or phone confrontations because I can’t think quickly enough to respond!