Post # 1
We have plans with another couple for dinner tomorrow night.
We emailed each other a few weeks ago, set up the date and confirmed. I goofed on the date, but it was clear what day of the week it was.
My friend emailed me back immediately, pointing out the goof and asking for clarification. She then asked if we’d get together at our house or at their house and to let her know.
I immediately responded, cleared up the date, and asked if they’d be up to going out.
And then: nothing.
So, yesterday, I emailed – asking if we were still on, apologizing for the earlier date goof, and throwing out 3 places that I thought might work and asking her what she thought.
And then: nothing.
I’m pretty much annoyed at her lack of response and want to throw in the towel. I think it’s silly that she’s not being responsive and I’m kind of over the effort it’s taking to make plans.
I KNOW I’m being overly sensitive about this – but I find her lack of response frustrating!
So, hive – I ask you – am I being silly about this? And, at what point can I say: I didn’t hear back from you, so I made other plans…..
And, no – I don’t want to pick up the phone and call… I know, I know – it’s as simple as that. But I also feel like she can respond to an email, since that’s how we’ve been dialoguing.
Post # 3
WEll, if it has actually been 2 weeks and she hasn’t said anything… I would just make other plans. Even if the “other plans” mean just a night watching films with your FI.
It’s really rude not to respond to things like that!
But I wouldn’t throw away the friendship over this. Maybe she was/is going through some kind of problem at work/home.
Post # 4
@Libellula: The thing that’s strange was she responded immediately and confirmed the ‘date’ (even though clarification was needed) and then didn’t respond to anything after. I could read into it and think that she didn’t like the fact I suggested going out… but I have nothing to go on, since I haven’t gotten a response.
Post # 5
If you had another offer to do something you really didn’t want to miss out on that would be one thing. But don’t make other plans just to spite her. Just let it play out. If she never responds then just go out with hubs and don’t stress about it. If she does get back to you then go ahead and go through with the plans that she suggests but I think it would be fine to say something like “Oh, I sort of figured things were canceled since I hadn’t heard from you, but sure, we are still up for it”. Let her know that you didn’t appreciate the way it was handled, but it’s definitely not something worth losing a friendship over.
Post # 6
@Moose1209: Thanks for the reminder to not make other plans just to spite her. I’m just annoyed to be in this holding pattern for no good reason.
Post # 7
Ha ha ha I have no answer for you, but I’ve totally been there.
Its like “it was a good idea at the time, but then things got complicated”
Usually what I do is just wait and see. Pathetic I know.
You can send a final email saying we still on and see, but its upto you.
Post # 8
Update: I ended up hearing from her after midnight… so, it’s on. Thanks, hive. You saved me from sending a snarky “hey, didn’t hear from you, so I made other plans” email. Now for an attitude adjustment before we get together… 🙂