Post # 1
My husband and I were talking about future children last night, and my husband said he didn’t want only girls. I was a little annoyed, but he wants his “line to continue” or whatever. I informed him, then, that we could very well have a gay child and that he needs to come to terms with the fact that his expectations may not be met, et cetera. Then HE said that since there aren’t any gay people in our families, we won’t have a gay son or daughter. I said I didn’t think it worked like that, and he made an interesting point: if we accept that people are born gay, then don’t we also accept that being gay is genetic? And if we accept that, then being gay is something that should run in families.
I was curious to hear people’s thoughts. I know this is a potentially heated topic, so can we keep the comments as level-headed as possible?
Post # 3
@peachacid: I honestly can’t answer. I don’t know if it is genetics or not. Theres been a debate in the scientific community about it (at least there was in the early 90’s), but I don’t know if they have an answer or not. I 100% believe that people are just born liking what they like, but I honestly can’t say why.
What I do know is that he can’t ever be 100% sure that you aren’t already related to someone who is gay. There are still a good number of people who hide that part of their life from others out of fear of rejection or being judged. So his argument is invalid.
Post # 4
Gentics is not as A+B=C as people think. There are resessive traits which means A+B=A C+B=C and only B+B=B, traits that only happen in combination which means A+B+C=D but A+B+B=E, and all sorts of other crazy alternatives. And who knows what is hiding in your family tree. Maybe cousin Tommy is so deep in the closet he is finding Christmas presents.
I will put it another way. My grandfather had 3 sibblings which in his day where put in the assylum for some sort of mental illness. Details are sketchy at best due to the time period, but it sounds like it could either be autism or some sort of similar developmental delay. No generation of my family has had this happen again yet, which includes all children of his 7 healthy sibblings, and all of them had big families. Does that mean that all 7 healthy children did not have this defect somewhere in their genetic code; no it really doesn’t. Because of the family history, my cousin’s kids are still early tested and at early risk. If they have developmental delays, they are seeing specialists right away.
Post # 5
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No. There is no scientific evidence that homosexuality is genetic. It is likely congenital, meaning you are both with your gender expression and sexuality fixed, but that is different than being genetic.
When scientists say that homosexual people were born that way, they’re aren’t saying it’s genetic in the inherited gene sense.
Post # 6
@peachacid: Your husband’s POV is quite interesting and made me pause and think. I am a lesbian but not one single family member is gay and I’m thinking beyond immediate family to aunts, uncles, 2nd and 3rd cousins, etc – it’s the same thing for my fiancee. So as to whether its genetic and can be “passed down”, I really dont especially since we dont plan on reproducing. Very interesting topic.
Post # 7
I really don’t think it’s genetic. The evidence certainly doesn’t point to that. However, I think having other gay family members can make it easier for a young person to come to terms with his sexuality, and thus there may be some families that have lots of gay members. But I don’t think it’s something in their genetic code.
Post # 8
I don’t believe it is a genetic. I also don’t believe that it is a choice. Being gay or straight usually isn’t that cut and dry for some. It isn’t black and white, and there isn’t a particular point where someone can point and say, “This is where and why I became gay.” Being gay is just who someone is and I truly hope your husband would be able to come to grips if his “theory” is proven wrong.
Post # 9
It’s like wondering why a kid likes cheese when nobody else in the family does. People are different. We all have different preferences, and that includes everything, from food to sexual partners. You’d never question the cheese thing – so how is this any different?
Post # 10
I don’t think so. Same as I don’t think there’s any genetic predisposition to like a certain color or enjoy certain hobbies. It’s just who you are.
Post # 11
@peachacid: I have a friend. He and his 2 siblings (one male, another female) that are gay. He has a 3rd sibling that is straight.
That’s not an answer to the question but i think it’s interesting.
Post # 12
There is a genteic component. Studies of gay men with an identitical twin show that the twin has about a 50% chance of being gay, compared with about 10% for fraternal twins, who have different DNA. However, there is almost certainly an environmental component as well. That doesn’t mean I think people choose to be gay, but rather that they are shaped by their genetics, prentatal environment, and life experience to develop a certain way. For example, young girls sexually abused by men are more likely to identify as gay.
Post # 13
I think there’s more evidence for the environment in the womb, especially the hormone exposure than a sexuality gene. If there is any genetic basis, it would probably just be a tendancy to feel within a particular range and not something where we will ever be able to determine a phenotype just by knowing someone’s genome.
Post # 14
@peachacid: i have noooo idea… but i know three brothers, two of which are gay. i just find it interesting! and i know a girl who is gay who met her biological mom only to find out she is also gay. these situations are probably more the exception than the rule… but still fascinating to me.
Post # 15
I dont believe so. If it was strictly hereditary, then how would it have started?
Most of my family (the older ones, anyways) are extremely homophobic, but one of my cousins is bi. Most of our family dont know because he doesnt want them to say anything to him about it. Him being bi definitely didnt come from anyone else in the family.
Post # 16
@peachacid: Nope, as someone above said, there is no evidence that homosexuality is inherited. Actually I watched a documentary last year about a couple of male identical twins, one of them was gay and the other was not.
They (obviously) had the same DNA data, and same upbringing. So it was really interesting to see how one of them was gay and the other wasn’t.
Nature? Nurture? Neither? Both? There are still many questions to answer.
I lean for: it is a choice.