Post # 1
Thus is the first great grandchild of my family, and my grandparents are estatic.
I have never really felt very close to family, I have aspergers I prefer to be alone. I have to go out and buy a baby gift and go to a baby shower for my cousin and his wife and I cant stand his wife never have. I have to go my family said its rude not to 🙁 What can I do.
Post # 2
Torbes: I understand where you’re coming from. I have a baby shower to go to on sunday for my FSIL and I’m not looking forward to it.
Just to keep peace, could you drive seperate? That way you can at least show up, but leave after an hour or so? And instead of buying a gift, maybe a gift card would work better.
Post # 3
Torbes: You can say you are not feeling your best and mail a gift from the registery.
Post # 4
+1 Smart advice. I also like the “stay for an hour” idea.
Post # 5
If you are unable to get out of the event and being around others is difficult for you, one thing to remember is that all the attention will be on the new mother, so you can easily fade into the background. It also might help to ask your mother if she can give you as sense of what you can expect from the shower if you’ve never been to one. And despite the fact you don’t like your SIL, it IS her baby shower, so just smile and tell her congratulations and that’s all you need to do.
As far as the gift goes, she probably has a registry that you can purchase off of–most online ones will even deliver it straight to her and you don’t need to wrap it or anything. (There are some people who think it’s a terrible faux pas to show up to a shower empty-handed, but I don’t see a problem arriving with a nice card and telling her verbally that your gift is coming in the mail).
Post # 6
If you are an adult, you should be able to make up your own mind re which social events you want to attend. Some people hate baby showers and don’t attend any shower for anyone.