Post # 1
I am very annoyed today. I don’t like sweets at all **Gasp!** and I can’t remember ever enjoying dessert. They’re just not my thing, I get repulsed when eating them and feel so gross afterwards. (I will have desserts at my wedding btw, I realize I am abnormal).
This causes problems in the workplace. People bring in sweets all the time, they are given as gifts, and quite often, especially on someone’s birthday, there is cake or brownies presented individually to everyone in the office.
So today, it’s a coworkers bday. I’m not really that close to her, but I say Hi when we run into each other. One of the people in my group baked her brownies as a present. She has been going around offering them to everyone which is very nice of her. She offered them to me at 9:30am and I said “Happy Birthday! thank you so much, but I don’t eat sweets”. Fine. Then, a couple minutes ago she said loudly for all to hear: “Moderndaisy you still haven’t had any brownies. Come over here and have some!” I replied “Thank you, E, but I just brushed my teeth and I don’t eat sweets” to which of course her reply was “Oh, you don’t want to try Coworkers brownies?” For EVERYONE to hear!
I am so annoyed! How awkward! I feel like she is just picking on me b/c she’s trying to justify herself eating brownies. Ugh, thanks for letting me rant!
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
i bake for my coworkers a lot and do not force anyone to eat things. i understand that people may not be into desserts, not like a certain ingredient, are on a diet, are diabetic, or whatnot. sorry she called you out like that–it’s a little embarrassing because you don’t want the person who made the brownies to feel like you’re specifically rejecting their brownies.
Post # 4
Oh, how I wish I didn’t like sweets!
Coworkers are SO annoying. When I was dieting for the wedding, they’d try to sabotage it and when I’d stand firm, they’d make snide comments. I loathe the people I work with, though. Stand firm, modern daisy!!
Post # 5
That’s not cool! I bake for co-workers. but just put it in the back room for them to enjoy at their liesure. I’m sorry she did that!
Post # 6
How rude! I am more nonconfrontational, so I would probably take one, make some excuse that I’m busy and have to eat it at my desk, and then break it up so it looks like I ate some, roll it in a napkin, and throw it out. 🙂 All sneaky-like!
Post # 7
That’s so annoying! No one should push people to eat desserts. Not everyone likes them or they might be dieting or they might have health problems that keeps them from eating sweets. People shouldn’t judge!
Post # 8
I second Laylabelle, I have tried to give up sweets soooo many times but only failed miserably.
People suck I confirmed this assumption at work yesterday. I literally cried like 3 times because I was soooo angry at their incompetence. You’re not alone my dear. Brush it off and ignore her.
Now, if you’re feeling “bitchy” find out what she doesn’t like (food wise) and make some for her as a “belated birthday present” lol I’m such a jerk.
Post # 9
I know this guy that HATES fish, and he was so tired of ppl trying to force him to try it, so now he just says, sorry i’m allergic to fish…and they immediately leave him alone…LOL maybe u could have a glutin allergy? lactose intolerant?
Post # 10
ARGH that’s so annoying. I had something similar happen to me at work. One of the women in the office baked a carrot cake for her supervisor’s birthday and was cutting pieces and handing them around and I kept just passing pieces on to others because I don’t like carrot cake. Then the woman who made the cake totally called me out on it in front of everybody and wouldn’t let it go so I had to tell her to her face in front of the majority of my office that I do not like or want any of the cake she made. That was fun.
Post # 11
FI and I both have this problem in our offices. The only solution I’ve found is to smile, take a piece, and give some excuse so you don’t have to eat it NOW–either that you just ate and will eat it later, that it’s FI’s favorite and want to bring it home to share with him, etc., and then just throw it out when no one’s looking. It keeps the peace while you don’t get stuck eating food you don’t want.
Post # 12
It’s too bad that they’re trying to push the desserts on you. I know my office is notorious for having sweets and baked goods in the kitchen at all times. I was trying to lose weight for the wedding and it used to drive me crazy. However, once I started losing weight, people started commenting and noticing that I never took the staff meeting donuts. It kind of inspired a couple of my coworkers to stop eating sweets in the office too. In fact, our office manager started providing yogurt and fruit at staff meetings instead of donuts and pastries. Maybe you could bring in some healthy snacks next time?
Post # 13
Hello! Well, you could say “I’m allergic to chocolate” until someone brings in fruit cake. My suggestion would be to take a piece of whatever is there and not eat it. Take it back to your desk, if they watch, wrap it up and say “I’m taking it to share w/my fiancee.”
Truthfully, these people are either good hearted or enabelers. They must know you are trying to watch your weight before the big day; and they are trying to fatten you up if they are really pushy about you eating. Don’t make excuses about brushing your teeth, etc. That’s lame. Just take a piece and either take it home or dump it. Or take it and put it on someone’s desk who will eat it. Stop making excuses.
Also, you really need to make sure you do not have an eating disorder. I’m just throwing this out there.
Post # 14
Momma – woah!! Haha, first of all, I had just brushed my teeth, for real! I brush them every day after lunch. And second, I absolutely do not have an eating disorder! 🙂 Sorry to smile but to me that’s absolutely ridiculous. I just really honestly do not like sweets! It’s so funny to hear that as a reaction.
When we went out for Xmas lunch the other day, I think every girl ordered a salad and I had the penne a la vodka with panchetta! I just honestly don’t like anything sweet – I can barely stomach fruit.
Wow, but seriously, if I ate something every time I was offered at work I think I would be a blimp by now! And no offense to the nice lady who offered me, but she would probably qualify to be a contestant on the biggest loser. I think people in offices love to push food b/c it gives them an excuse to eat. Instead of eating every time something ‘good’ comes around, I eat when I’m hungry and stop when I’m full.
Post # 15
ahh yes the lovely ladies and their never ending baked goods! I rarely eat sweets, but when it’s brought into work I always take some make take a bite then throw it away. I make sure whoever brought it in sees me take some! haha
I don’t think it’s that serious to say someone may have an eating disorder because they dislike sweets..
Post # 16
Mimosa – respectfully, I think insinuating that someone has an eating disorder is a big deal! I mean, I literally laughed out loud when I read that post, but I was also appalled that someone would come to that conclusion just because I don’t like sweets. And to assume I was making excuses for not eating them when I clearly stated the truth in both of my responses is twisting the facts at least a little. The whole point of my post was to vent about how annoyed and embarrased I felt that she made such a spectacle in front of my sweet coworker who baked them!
What, do we all have to take one just b/c they’re offered? That would be so wasteful, you know people in other departments would LOVE to swing by and pick up that tasty brownie that the dessert hater rejected (politely). Plus, if I take one, I’m setting a precedent that I actually like sweets and will take one when offered. This would lead to years and pounds of wasted sweets that could have gone to someone more appreciative. Also, I dislike lying! I am a non-passive-aggressive truth teller who does not like sweets!