Post # 1
I’m invited to 3 b’day parties in the near future. All invites said “no gifts”.
For 1 of the parties, I already bought a present, and I know the b’day girl LOVES gifts (and would gift in the event she received an invite like that).
For the 2nd party – it’s a dinner party, and DH and I are two of six people invited to the dinner. This is a more intimate gathering of friends. I do not have a gift for this person and have been racking my brains as to what to get her. For my b’day she gave me a gift card (no party/event was involved), so I feel like I should reciprocate SOMETHING – but maybe chipping in on dinner is enough? (I’ll also preface to say, last year, I went to her b’day dinner for the first time and it was SUPER awkward for me, because she paid for her own dinner – which is never done in my friend circles). So – what I could do is just cover her whole dinner (because I don’t think the others will) and call that my gift. ??? But, if everyone ends up chipping in, that will be LAME.
For the 3rd party – it’s a couple who are both turning a milestone b’day. I’m thinking of taking them a nice bottle of wine…
That’s a very long post to say: when you put ‘no gifts’ do you REALLY mean ‘no gifts’?????
And – any ideas for the 2nd scenario are appreciated!!!
Post # 3
I would say that yes it means they really don’t want a gift. If I said “no gifts”, I would not expect any. I think in situation 2, if you want to buy her a bday gift since she got you one, go ahead and get it, but maybe don’t give it at the dinner party. This way, the others don’t feel awkward that they didn’t bring a gift.
Post # 4
Wine is always the answer. Seriously.
Post # 5
I think it means “take a gift if you wish”. And I would still likely get the birthday-people gifts, even if its something as simple as a bottle of wine or something.
Post # 6
My personality is of the “say what you mean” type, so I really believe that people should mean what they say.
Some people might say that etiquette says that you should still bring a gift…but I cannot imagine meeting a single person who would say “no gifts,” and yet expects you to bring a gift. Not in real life! I think if someone bothers to say that, then they REALLY don’t want any gifts!
Post # 7
@Beluga:However, if weddingbee had a “like” button, you would defintely have gotten one!
Post # 8
I feel like “no gifts” means they’re not expecting anything, but won’t turn down a present. But definitely don’t go out of your way racking your brain to come up with a cute personal gift. A bottle of wine or a gift card is appropriate to me.