Post # 1
Just curious. I have several friends, and even my own mom who is a strong, independant person, who doesn’t usually care what people think of her, tell me they would never eat alone in a restaurant. They say it’s because they don’t want others to see them sitting there alone. To me, it’s no different than shopping alone. You’re doing something that just has to be done.
I often go on my lunch break to a sit down restaurant, pull out the newspaper or a book (or phone if I have nothing else to read) and enjoy a meal alone. I sometimes need that break from the office, or just to have some time to myself. Just wondering what you think about it? Would you go to movies alone? Dinner? Other activities that others might normally not do alone?
Post # 2
To me, dining out is a social event so I wouldn’t jsut go by myself, but I have no problem eating alone if the situation warrents it. If I’m on travel for work, I will dine in a restaurant myself no problem. I used to visit a friend who worked as a manager at a restaurant and sit by myself and he’d drop in to chat a few minutes here and there.
Post # 3
Ryansgirl: I wouldn’t do it. I would feel uncomfortable – I view going out to eat as a social aspect. I’d rather just grab food and bring it back to wherever I was if I had to be alone.
Post # 4
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I personally love going to the movies alone. It isn’t like you talk to whoever you are there with anyway! Plus, at the theater near my house I can order a glass of wine, recline, and unwind.
I have no problem going to eat alone, either, but I basically like to be alone whenever I get the chance. DH and I are together 90% of the time so it is nice to just do my own thing now and then.
Post # 5
I have major social anxiety, so dining alone is a big no-no for me. I couldn’t care less about how I’m perceived in public eating or being alone, but it’s the atmosphere of being alone that puts me on edge.
Post # 6
I do it only when I am out and about running errands. Also, this thread reminds me of this episode of Friends (but I do not think there’s anything wrong about eating alone)
Post # 7
I’m baffled by people who can’t be alone. I actually like to be in a nice restaurant alone and do it often if I’m out running errands on my own.
I usually bring a book or a magazine but truthfully don’t end up reading much, I eat.. I drink.. I think.. I watch.. I listen. Its actually very enjoyable.
Post # 8
I love the occasional meal alone. No one to judge what I order, I don’t have to wrry about talking with my mouth full and DH isn’t there eating off of my plate.. so I finally get to take home leftovers! I also do not understand why people think it is so weird to eat alone.
Post # 9
Ryansgirl: I was a waitress for a few years during college and I loved patrons who would come in and dine alone. It’s rare for lone-diners to come during peak-times, so generally the place would be pretty dead when they’d come in anyways. They generally fell into one of two categories: “bring me food, then leave me alone so I can read” or “I welcome conversation, so stay and chat if you want”. The first is great because they’re always low maintenance and easy to take care of, so you are able to earn a tip while focusing on sidework. The second is also fantastic because being a waitress can be incredibly boring when the place is near-empty, so even just a 5-minute chat breaks up the monotony (and often leads to a nicer tip).
The only time a single individual is less-than-welcome is if they come during a super-busy time (weekend dinner rush, etc.) and either demand to be seated at a table intended for 4 or more people and/or stay use the restaurant as a library and stay at the table reading for a long time after the meal is done when other patrons are waiting to be seated.
Post # 10
I LOVE doing things alone… I actually look forward to days when I’m out shopping by myself and I get to choose a restaurant and sit down and eat alone. It’s relaxing to me! Granted, this is typically brunch/lunch. I don’t think I’ve ever sitten down to eat dinner alone in a restaurant.
Post # 11
I dine alone frequently and I have found that at restaurants of quality solo diners are treated with grace (if I am overlooked or treated as a nuisance while dining solo more than once at a restaurant, I never go back*). When I go out to dine alone, it is usually because I am very interested in some particular aspect of the restaurant’s cuisine, and I guess the staff must pick up on my interest, because I will often get into conversations with sommeliers, chefs, and other members of the staff (I also tend to dine late, particularly by American standards, so the atmosphere is less rushed). Every now and again this has led to the chance to sample new wines, ingredients, etc.
*It goes without saying that when dining alone in the United States I do not linger overly long at the table and I tip extra so that the server does not take too big of a hit on my solo table…I agree that solo diners who are not considerate of the fact that US servers need to experience *some* table turnover, especially at rush times, to make a living are being rude.
Post # 12
I don’t prefer to eat alone but if I’m out shopping or something and I need to eat, I will. I just pull out my phone and browse or read a book on my Kindle app. So it’s not like I’m just staring at my plate and looking all lonely lol.
Post # 13
Ryansgirl: I don’t. It’s not that I’m afraid or that I think it’s weird or anything, I just view going out to eat as a social activity. I just wouldn’t want to spend the money to eat out alone, it’s boring to me. I’ve eaten at a sit down restaurant alone before out of necessity, and it was fine, but I would just prefer to get something quick and be on my way.
Post # 14
Cool, thanks for all the replies so far. I was just curious to see how others felt. I find it interesting based on personalities and how people feeling about dining alone and also how others perceive lone diners.
Post # 15
I havent done it before, and I dont want to. I like to have someone to talk to when I’m eating.