(Closed) NWR: Email to my estranged father. Too harsh? (long)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

It’s harsh. But it’s warranted. If my father ever attempts to contact me, he will be getting a similar response. You’re actually quite a bit nicer than I would be, given the circumstances.

I’m proud of you for getting all that out. I know how it is and I’m sorry your family situation is like this 🙁 Believe me when I say- I TOTALLY understand your feelings.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I don’t think it’s harsh at all–just to the point. I haven’t read your previous post (yet) to get more of the background, but it sounds like you more than deserve to get all this stuff off your chest, and you did it in a very mature way.

 

ETA: Just read your other post. You were way nicer than I probably would have ever been. Who DOES that?

Post # 5
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2462 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i don’t actually think you’re being too harsh at all. you’re basically saying, “cut the crap. i’m willing to email you but don’t try to take advantage of me. i have a really great life no thanks to you but i still wish you well.”

Post # 6
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1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You are way nicer than I was in the letter I sent to my dad several years ago. I think you got what you needed to off your chest in a positive way. I hope you feel better just getting it out even if he doesn’t get the hint.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ditto to what @Miss Fish: said. You were not too harsh considering the circumstances, being mean would have been warranted but you’re very polite/restrained. And I get where you’re coming from, and proud that you can express yourself so well through an email that gets the point across but still keeps open the lines of communication.

 

Post # 9
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

Hey @UpstateCait: I think your e-mail is appropriate and quite deserved.  The content is a bit harsh, but it’s needed when people (especially loved ones) do not respect our wishes and desires.  Press SEND immediately!!  Keep us posted…. 

Post # 9
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

OOPS!  Sorry about the double-post.

Post # 10
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2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Definitely approperiate, and better yet, eloquent

 

Post # 11
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

You go girl!!! That is all ;0)

Post # 12
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Honestly? Not harsh enough. You have nothing to apologize for (I’m sure you’re well aware of that) and the words “I’m sorry” or “forgive me” should not be included in any sort of way. You strike me as someone more than capable of maintaining a firm boundary with someone like this, so I would encourage you to take every precaution in doing so. This man is a manipulator. Let it be crystal clear to him who holds the power in this relationship.

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