(Closed) NWR: Extended stay at in laws help needed

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just ask what you can do, I do that at my future IL house when we visit! If your Future Mother-In-Law is in the kitchen, maybe ask what you can do to help (IE: set table, chop veggies etc) Maybe offer to do dishes?

Post # 4
3689 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

All you have to do is ask your Mother-In-Law if there’s anything you can help with.  That way, even if she doesn’t have anything she wants you to do, at least you’ve offered.

Post # 5
14498 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Have you asked if there is anything you can do to help.  Maybe it is just opening a can or turning on the oven.  When we stay at my moms, I always do my best to keep up with the kitchen and always do the dishes and make sure the trash gets out.  Sometimes it is the little things that make the most impact.  You are really trying and that goes a long way into showing that you are a good person, and says alot to MILs as they always notice.

Post # 7
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@pinkshoes: Even if it’s more work for her to tell you how to do things, she’ll probably really appreciate the effort. It’s very sweet that you’re bothered by this, btw 🙂

Post # 8
46256 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ask her to teach you while she is cooking. She will most likely be flattered.

Clear and set the table. Tell her you like to dust or vacuum and ask for the equipment you need.

You could also offer to cook dinner one night. When you are out sometime, it only takes a couple of minutes to pick up pasta, jarred pasta sauce and a premixed salad. I’m sure you can manage that.

Post # 9
7174 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think you should just talk to your Mother-In-Law.  Tell her how grateful you are for all she is doing to make your stay pleasant and ask what she would like help with.  Based on what she says, go from there.

Some ideas without her input:  help clear the dishes, wash the dishes, set the table, take out the trash, make sure your bed is made, bathroom is not left cluttered.  

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