NWR: Fashion/confidence

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@peachacid:  

Personally I really liked the outfit you wore for your dinner out a few weeks ago. If you KNOW something already looks decent (like what you’ve been wearing to work every day), then why not just continue with that TYPE of outfit, just change up the shirt & scarf each day? I mean, it might sound boring but if it works, it works! 

I understand not being happy with your body type. I’m the same way. I’ll see someone who’s about 5 inches taller than me & 30 lbs lighter & think ” wow, that looks GREAT on them!” But if I tried to wear it someone would call the fashion police for sure. I see my body type the way you see yours (even though I thought you looked great in your pics) but I’m kinda short 5’4, with muscular calves/legs, which makes me look stocky, not feminine & graceful like I’d love to look, & now that I just had a baby, I’m carrying an extra 30 lbs on top of it all! It’s really frustrating, but you know what?! I decided a few months ago that I don’t frraking care! I’m going to wear what I think looks good on ME. Every day I wear a variation of the same outfit pretty much. Skinny pants, boots, tank top, and long open-front sweater, which hits me about mid-thigh, & disguises my new flab. I’m dreading summer because I won’t be able to hide behind long sweaters anymore 🙁

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@peachacid:  Have you tried longer, open-front sweaters? They kind of flare out at the hips a little usually & look great with jeans OR dress pants, over a tank top or scoop neck shirt! To make it dressier, just add a necklace or a scarf & bam! Any kind of shoe will work too, but you’d need something like a flat or boots for work probably.

Post # 6
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2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Like these!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@peachacid:  LOL it doesn’t really flap around. At least I never notice it. I LOVE these sweaters for my body type! i think they’re really feminine & help accentuate curves & detract from trouble spots!

Post # 10
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42460 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@peachacid:  You are not willing to listen to anything any of us say anyhow, so I’m not sure why you keep posting the same thing over and over. You have a serious problem with perception re what your own body looks like. None of us are going to be able to convince you that you have a cute figure and basically could wear anything you like.

I think you need to hear it from a professional- either a personal shopper or a psychiatrist/psychologist.

 

Post # 12
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2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

@peachacid:  Yes! It will still work. Find some that are more flared out at the hips (like the first pics) & that will make you appear curvier. The bottom pic isn’t a great example. The top 2 are better. 

BTW, I got a couple of mine at Walmart. I don’t care if some think it’s cheap. They’re nice, well-made sweaters that flatter my figure! I got one on clearance a week ago for $9! Go me!

 

Post # 14
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42460 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

To save time, here is the no waist, big arms and shoulders, big legs figure that the OP has in her head. What I see is a cute figure that could wear most anything she likes.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@okqueenbee:  If you KNOW something already looks decent (like what you’ve been wearing to work every day), then why not just continue with that TYPE of outfit, just change up the shirt & scarf each day? I mean, it might sound boring but if it works, it works! 

YES YES YES! This is the key for lazy dressing, but always looking put together and polished!

@peachacid:  Everyone thinks I’m a stylish girl. I’m not, I don’t follow fashion at all. People think I have a killer body. I don’t — I just hide my flaws. Other women ask me how I find the time to get ready in the morning — my routine takes 15 minutes max. 

Seriously, if you have an outfit you feel good in, then replicate it. Buy the black pants in hunter green, navy, ox blood. Buy similar blouses in different neutrals. Buy the same cardigan in beige, navy, burgundy, red, black, charcoal, light grey, sunshine yellow, etc. Unless you absolutely love fashion and take pleasure in putting together an outfit everyday, which you (like me!) do not, then don’t do it. Why start your day in a bad mood because clothes make you feel like shit?

Every day, I’m in some combination of skinny ankle jeans or J.Crew no 2 pencil skirt, silk/chambray/linen blouse, fitted/boyfriend fit blazer, and pointy toe pump or ankle boot. I cycle through a small handful of necklaces: chunky pearls, clear crystals, floral crystals (all from J. Crew), or my simple heirloom diamond solitaire. I actually feel guilty when I get compliments on my clothes because it takes no thought. All my blouses go with all my skirts and all my pants. I don’t even mix patterns. I wear neutrals more often than not, though I do sometimes wear blazers in happy colours. 

You like wearing dress pants and a sweater? Then buy 5 of those pants in black, navy, and other neutrals if you feel comfortable. Find a sweater you like? Buy it in 5 colours, or don’t. Buy a bunch of neutrals. Wear that during the day. Need to go out for dinner? Throw on some sparkly shoes instead of boots (they don’t even need to be heels), a statement necklace or chandelier earrings, throw your hair back in a simple ponytail, and put on red lipstick. Don’t feel comfortable in red lipstick? Then wear a peachy nude. 

I can put together some combos if you’d like. 

Post # 16
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@peachacid:  So you had one bad experience with one salesperson. Big hairy deal. Perhaps she knew nothing about clothing anyhow.

Is there a store that offers a personal shopper service where you live? You don’t even have to buy anything if you are worried that it won’t be the store for you (and I know you are). Just make an apointment, let them choose outfits for you, then ask them to explain why they think those pieces work for you.

You can even ask them to take a picture of you so you can use those pics for reference for more shopping or just for putting outfits together at home.

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