Post # 1
I feel stupid for even typing this, but for some reason I am upset about this and need to vent.
My Fiance and I have been together for almost 6 years. We never really do anything for his birthday, but he’s turning 30 next year. I have been planning a super awesome surprise party for him in my head for like the past year. Yes, 2 years in advance. Haha, I am THAT excited about it. I want to invite all of our friends and family and have it catered at a nice restaurant, etc, etc. I have not told anyone about except his parents.
One of my BMs has been dating my FI’s best man for about 7 months or so. We don’t really approve of their relationship for various reasons, but whatever they’re adults and can do what they please. Anywho, he turns 30 three months before my Fiance turns 30. I was having lunch with my Bridesmaid or Best Man and she was like oh yea I am totally going to have a surprise party for him when he turns 30.
WTF?!?! Way to steal my surprise party thunder!!! Okay, so there was no way for her to know that I have been planning this party in my head for like 2 years, but for some reason it just really pissed me off. His bday is before my FI’s so of course his party would be first and they have been BBFs since they were 5 so everyone invited to his party would be invited to our party. UGH.
Anyways, I obviously can’t complain to my Fiance about this and I am just in the mood to bitch. I just want to be like I have been planning this party foreverrrr and now all of a sudden you want to have one too?!?!?! NO! And yes, I know… Totally irrational, but I needed to let it out!
Post # 3
Hope you feel better because as you said you did say” Feel free to tell me I’m acting like a child. Consider it done.
Post # 4
If it makes you feel any better….they could be broken up by then? Lol.
Post # 5
@AmeliaBedelia: haha that’s what I was thinking too!
I can understand why that would piss you off, but if you try and make any sort of deal about it you will come off as petty and childish.
Also, look at it this way, if your friend throws a large surprise party for her bf, your Fiance probably will have even less of an idea you are throwing him a big party (especially if when you go you tell him that this will count for his big celebration too).
Post # 6
Wow. It may seem childish to react like this but we are all childish at times. I would be upset too, because even though there was no way for her to know this, you have been planning for this for quite a while now. It is good to vent about things instead of keeping it bottled up. I hope things work out 🙂
Post # 7
@julies1949: I do feel better! I just needed to vent. 😛
@AmeliaBedelia: It’s really mean, but I do kinda hope that. Ugh, I am going to hell…
@KatNYC2011: I know it is childish, and I would never say anything to her… so I just needed to let it out somewhere haha.
Post # 8
@TinyTina: As long as it isn’t verbalized, no harm no foul. We all have relationships around us where we think “What? Why?” And hey, it really could happen. Lol. Hope you feel better though, and even if they don’t yours will be better because you’ll know his preferences better.
Post # 9
@TinyTina: Sometimes all you need to do is just let it all out. Glad it helps to “talk” it out!
Post # 10
I don’t blame you for being peeved. I would be too! But yea, like @AmeliaBedelia said, maybe they won’t even be together by the time the birthdays roll around.
Post # 11
Your not being childish, you are being disappointed and that is totally understandable. I think that it is really sweet that you have been planning this for so long and it is totally sucky that, without meaning to, your friend stepped on your plans. I think that you still can totally pull off a great surprise for him, don’t let it stop you from celebrating this milestone with him. He will love that you put so much work and thought into it.
Post # 12
It doesn’t matter how many other surprise parties there are. This is all about your Fiance and for your Fiance, and he’s going to love it when he sees how much time, energy and thought you have put into planning a surprise for him. Especially if he’s not used to celebrating his birthday; he will be touched.
Post # 13
Lol, well, a lot of things we learn in the first grade tend to go out the window as adults…
Hope you feel better. Hope your party is awesome.
Post # 14
See, I don’t think you’re mad she wants to throw a party for him.. I think you’re upset she wants to do the exact same thing you did. This would sort of irritate me as well 🙂 But.. Take solace in knowing all mutual friends (including her boyfriend) will know she blatantly copied your really fantastic idea.