- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
Hi bees, I wanted to post an update for those of you who were so kind and supporting a few weeks ago when I found out my grandad was very ill.
I went to visit him in hospital a few weeks ago, I was so worried he’s be a ghost and so weak and wouldn’t remember me – but when we arrived (me, Mum and Nan) he was just being moved from his chair to his bed! He’s apparently been out for a few hours and eaten dinner and breakfast! He hadn’t been speaking or even opening his eyes the days before, so this was a huge change, and for the better.
So once he was settled, we went over and said hello. He instantly recognised me and said hello. We were all chatting to him (not with much reply) and he moved his hand out to hold mine :’) He was talking a little bit of nonsense, probably things he remembers and doesn’t realise that was a long time ago – which is fine, I studied linguistics and the language that comes after stroke, so wasn’t phased at all (by the way, it was confirmed he had had a stroke).
We stayed and talked and laughed for about half and hour – 45 minutes, then said goodbye, he gave me a kiss and squeezed my hand.
My nan spoke to the doctor who had changed his meds, he said that Grandad has improved, but not to get our hopes up, this isn’t a recoverable situation. Which I know, and have come to accept.
Since then, between Social Services and other bodies, it has been decided that Nan is not able to care for him – which is fair, she is tiny and so dainty, there is no way she could lift or dress or bathe my grandad who is, let’s say, rotund! 😛
On Saturday, my parents were up at ours doing work in the garden with us, when I got a call from Nan to say that Grandad has been moved to the home. He’s been settled in and is fast asleep. She has taken some photographs to put in his room. The home is only a 2 minute drive from my nan’s house, and 10 from my mum and uncle’s houses.
I am happier now that I’ve seen him, and I know he’s now in a care facility where we all know where he is, and he’s being looked after by professionals.
I haven’t thought about him not being at our wedding, it makes me sad – so I’ll just avoid that for now.
Thank you all for your support with this xxx