NWR- Friendship Advice

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3128 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

You can try and let the friendship die a natural death. Don’t make plans with her, tell her you are busy when she wants to get together, don’t go to lunch with her, etc. Personally, I would be direct and say you feel like your lives are going in different directions.


I don’t understand why you thought she should talk to this guy about his behavior… IMO it was up to you to tell him he is behaving inappropriately. He kissed you, not her and it made you uncomfortable, not her. No one is responsible for standing up for you or solving your problems except you.


Post # 4
3813 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

People grow and change over time, don’t feel bad for needing to distance yourself (and it definitely sounds like you do, if being around her puts in you situations like you just described).  Just start getting “too busy” to hang out.

Post # 5
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014


The key is here, to do this slowly. Just make yourself increasingly unavailable. When you do hang with her don’t drink around her, or only have one drink. Tell her you want to cut the alcohol out of your diet or something. I know what its like to attempt to end a friendship you’ve outgrown when you’re dealing with someone who is confrontational. Its really hard and it takes time, eventually after enough “Oh, I cant hang out on Saturday night, because I have plans with (insert bf’s/other friend’s name here)” she’ll get the hint.

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