- Miss Mitzie
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
Ok so this story is a little drawn out but I will try to make it short… I just don’t know what to do.
I made friends with L earlier this year when she started coming around with her then bf (then one of FI’s close friends). At first I didn’t like her because she is a “talker”. You know like one ups every story you tell and is way to open. But I gave her a chance and we started to get really close. I questioned some of her stories because of fuzzy details and bad timelines, but didn’t think too much of it because she seemed so genuine.
L really helped with our haunted forest leading up to October and was basically with me every day working all day (for free) to help me get that set up and ready to run. She helped me put together my invites, went to dress fittings (my BMs are all extremely busy with work and family lives). All in all she was a great friend to me.
Fast forward to my bridal shower last weekend. L had a good friend named A who had hung out with us and we had begun to become a nice trio of friends. They helped me shop and obsess over hair and make-up for that day (I’m normall a super casual jeans and tee kinda girl). I asked L to help me with my hair and make-up that morning and she said she couldn’t come over till noon, so A volunteered to help me and I accepted. (A is a really nice girl who is in school to do hair). When L found out she was coming she got all weird and acted like it was offensive to her and showed up an hour early.
The early thing was no big deal, it was what she was wearing. I had a sparkly tank under a thick comfy sweater with natural make-up and jeans with boots. Nothing to extravagant, but really nice for me. A kinda matched me in a super cute sweater with leggins and boots. When L showed up I had a mini freak out. She had a super tight black shirt that was semi see-through, the arms of it had slits all the way down and there were giant holes in the shirt on her chest and back. She had fake lashes on, way to much (blue) make-up and tried to wear knee high furry boots…. Not really appropriate for an afternoon even that my Future Mother-In-Law FGIL and grandmother was at.
I didn’t say anything even though I wanted to and tried to let it go. Later that night was our bachelor/bachelorette party at our favorite local bar and L wore the same thing (I was still upset and felt really shown up) but I decided to just have a good time. Well L acted like a complete whore that night. She had been dating one of my good friends, and completely blew him off, she licked icing off of a (non-single) guys tongue, gave another friend (also non single) a lapdance (while his girlfriend was 25 feet away) and then got picked up by some guy with her crotch resting on his forearm.
Ugh…. We all went home that night and I didn’t really talk to L the next day because I was so upset. A and I met up for lunch and were talking about everything and then we started discovering lies that L told us. For example she told each of us that she had graduated from a different college, she had made up this big long miscarraige story to me that A had never heard of before…. I could go on and on and on with the stories that don’t match up…..
So I confronted L about everything and she denied acting that way at my party said if I had a problem with the clothes I should have said something and then denied every single lie that A and I had discovered…. Then tried to brush it off as nothing.
Here is the thing that is eating me. L was a really really really good friend and all the things she lied about really have no importance in every day life…. I just don’t know what to do. I told her that I was writing her off and I didn’t want to see her again… Which is true to a point because I have always had trust issues and how can you have a relationship with someone that you can’t trust?? But I really miss her….