NWR Funeral Etiquette/ introducing FI?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

People get introduced at funerals, as the deceased usually know people from different things.  I would bring him, I would want the support.

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it’s very weird and awkward to go to the funeral of someone I’ve never met and who wasn’t close to my partner. I think it might be best for your Fi to sit this one out.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t know that there’s any formal etiquette about this. To me, I would bring himm but not make a big fuss over him, if that makes sense. You’re not bringing him “to introduce him”, you’re bringing him for support and because he’s a major part of your life now and involved in all aspects, including this one.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

coffeedrinker:  well since you put it that way, google tells me : “as a general rule, most people do not attend the funerals of strangers.”  Your great uncle is a stranger to your Fi and you yourself were not close to the deceased, hence your need for emotional support should not be significant to the point that you would require an escort. When you compare your desire to introduce your fiancé to your extended family with the potential for some family members to prefer to grieve with loved ones and no strangers, the polite thing to do would be to attend without your fiancé.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

coffeedrinker:  bring him. He should be there as a sign of support for you and also to show his respect for your family members who were close with the deceased. As long as you behave appropriately (don’t wave your ring in people’s faces fishing for compliments or start showing off your pinterest boards) there is no reason your fiancé shouldn’t attend. He is part of your family now. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

There is no reason he should not attend. Unfortunately in the past 3 months since we’ve got engaged, we’ve been to 2 funerals. And we’ve each been introduced and each one. Not a big deal. I don’t think it’s rude at all. 

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