Post # 1
Im graduating tomorrow, yay, and we’re all decorating our caps tonight. I was thinking of putting “got the BS, next up the MRS” since I’m getting married in three weeks. But I’m also getting my MS now but that’s not as cute lol Is that cute or should I stick to just my college/major? If anyone has an speech path ideas let me know!
Post # 2
MrsN14: to me BS sounds like B***S**t not like Bachelor of Science (i assume that’s the BS you are refering to?) we usually abbreciate it B.Sc to avoid confusion
Post # 3
MrsN14: I voted “Nah” b/c personally I’m biased and despise the whole “getting the MRS degree” concept. It’s a notion that needs to die imo. I get in your case that it’s unique as you are getting married in 3 weeks – congrats! 🙂 But frankly I would keep academic and married/personal life separate.
Post # 4
MrsN14: I wouldn’t use the word ‘dumb’, but it does make me a little queasy. You’ve just done something most people haven’t. You have every right to be proud of that and celebrate it in any way you wish. It’s a big deal! But the phrasing makes me think of ‘got that pesky education behind me. Now I get to do the thing of real worth!’
I do realise and admit that this is me projecting as it’s more about the close timing of momentous things in your life, but I’d pretty much read that between the lines if I ever came upon it in real life and feel bad for the person.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX
It makes it sound like you just went to college to get your “MRS” degree. Don’t cheapen your accomplishments.
Post # 6
MrsN14: I think decorating caps is kind of.. childish. I graduated with my Ed Specialist degree a few weeks ago and I just cringed at all of the decorated caps.
It was cute in high school, but not so much in college.
Post # 7
It’s cute, but so anti-feminist. This is about your graduation, not your wedding.
What’s your MS in?
Post # 8
I think it’s fine if you want to decorate your cap, I don’t think it’s childish by any means, but I wouldn’t do the whole “getting an MRS” thing. I agree with others that the notion of that needs to die out.
Post # 9
I didn’t know people decorated caps for anything after high school graduation. I wouldn’t put anything on it.
Post # 10
TBH, I think a lot of feminists, and not just the staunch ones would find it a cringeworthy anachronism. I’d also associate it with the phrase “went to college for her MRS degree.” Not to mention, many married women use Ms. or keep their names.
Some college cultures are more into the cap decorating than others. My school was not, and neither was I, whereas at my sibling’s school, there were quite a few that were decorated. At large universities, some people also do it so their families can pick them out from the crowd.
Post # 11
ladies in the 50’s and 60’s went to college to get their “MRS” degree. i would find doing this moving a step backward.
Post # 12
Thanks everyone! Sorry we turned off internet if our apt. yesterday so I haven’t been on! I would consider myself anti-feminist but that’s not what it was about. I ended up doing
“Thanks mom and dad”
Down the sides I put – my name, B.S., cute little ring I made tiny in the corner, then MRS, SLP 14.
It sounds like a lot but it was all fairly small. Most of our college decorated their hats as its 98% female. No one ever did that in my high school though.
Post # 13
MRS? What does that have to do with your graduation? So confused.
Post # 14
Umm, no. Please do not cheapen your degree to be “cute” (a MS is a much bigger deal than a BS!). And bringing in the whole marriage things just makes you seem frivilous and unfeminist, which I’m SURE that you are NOT.
Congratulationson your graduation! What a huge achievement!
Post # 15
MrsN14: “I would consider myself anti-feminist”
Please tell me you don’t mean that. You are saying that you think women are inferior to men…that’s f***ed up.