[NWR] Grandad ill and likely to not come home

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m so sorry to hear your grandpa is not well. My own grandfather passed away very unexpectadly in Janaury. We were very close and are actually having the wedding at his farm. It was/is extremely hard, and I’m sure will not be without tears on our wedding day.

 

I think it’s up to you to decide if you’d like to see him again. It’s so hard to see someone so sick,  but you need to consider if you’ll regret not going. It’s so cliche, but I’ve really been trying to remember all the good times, and remember how happy the times I spent with my grandpa made me and how he was the most wonderful man. I’m still sad, but, it’s hard to be TOO sad when someone lived such a life.

 

Thinking of you

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am sorry you are feeling this pain. We are never ready to lose those we love.

Contrary to your mother’s advice, if you are able to go see him, I would suggest you do so. You can talk to him, tell him how much you love him, tell him what he meant to you growing up and how you will miss him. We never really know how much a dying patient can hear and be aware of.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

I am so sorry; that’s such a tough decision and such a touch situation to be in in the first place. Hugs.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

So sorry to hear about this 🙁 Sending good thoughts your way!

Post # 7
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Newbee

I was really close with my aunt, she passed away 5 years ago and I know its a long time ago but I still miss her alot and now with the wedding plans etc even more, when I was a little girl she used to make me promise that she`ll be my witness at the wedding. 

5 years ago she was very very ill and I am not the ideal person in these situations, I cry really easily and seeing her like that on a hospital bed broke my heart, I literally ran all the way out of the hospital crying. At first I used to think that it was better if I did not go to the hospital because I would have prefered remembering her at her best but then as time went by I realised that I would have regretted it my whole life not going. She was there for me my whole life and it was my last chance to see her.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

So sorry to hear this 🙁 my grandad died when I was quite young (8) and he had had strokes and was not really himself anymore. I still went to see him and it was the best choice I made. He was actually so out of it that he was being mean to people so I was warned but when he saw me he lit up and said “hello KG!” Which is what he always called me and I was the last person he ever said anything nice to. it was hard for everyone but I hope that me being there gave him a few moments of peace too. 

People always think that that’ll end up being your lasting memory of them and it’s not. Yes you will remember but the real, old memories will be the lasting ones. 

IMHO if you can go, you should. 

I hope you’re ok x

 

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

RhianfaHW:  It’s being there that is important, not so much what you say. Take some pics with you of good times with him. Tell him your memories of times you sahred, tell him you love him.

Even just sitting there quietly, holding his hand is very supportive.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m so sorry 🙁 you’ll know what to say when you’re there; it’ll just flow. Take it easy and I hope he’s not in any pain xx

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

even though you know they’ll be more comfortable when they go, it’s still incredibly difficult and painful isn’t it? 🙁 you take care of yourself too and I hope it all goea as well as it can. And anytime you need to talk we’re here 🙂 xx

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