(Closed) NWR: Help – how can I handle…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hmmmmm great question. I think a “careful sweetie!” very nicely might help. Some people will go off no matter what though. And true enough that not all mothers can watch their kid’s every single movement, but if a kid is kicking you repeatedly, you should be able to tell them to stop. If the mom goes off, I would ask her for her mailing address so you can send her your dry cleaning bill after 😉

ETA – I also think it’s important in any kid’s life for them to understand what’s acceptable or not, whether that’s via parents, friends, or anyone else. I’m sure the kid’s mom wouldn’t want to get dirty boots all over their coat either and if they tables were turned would do the same.

Post # 4
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011 - The Royal Park Hotel

That’s a super tough one, especially if you don’t have an out like getting up and moving away. I like bakerella’s suggestion, though: something that makes light of the situation and can’t be remotely construed as an affront on their parenting ability or an attempt to discipline their child. Unfortunately with a toddler the parent’s nerves may be stretched pretty thin, and they may not take well to a comment no matter how politely phrased it is. 🙁

Post # 5
2397 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

That’s definitely a tough situation.  I would probably make a comment about the child to the mom like “Oh my goodness, so much energy!” or something along those lines, to draw attention to their actions.  If the parent ignored you or didn’t tell the child to stop, I’d probably leave… especially if muddy shoes were involved!

Post # 6
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Honestly, I would just say something! I doubt the mothers realize that their child is kicking you and are just choosing to ignore it. I would say politely, “Excuse me, but your child is kicking my coat. Do you mind moving him/her over a little bit? Thank you so much!” If you say it nicely, the mom is less likely to get defensive, and will more likely be apologetic. It’s silly, in my opinion, to be too polite at your own expense. You’re not being a bitch, you’re pointing out the fact that the kid is kicking you! not something to feel bad about at all. Now if you said something, and the  mom ignored you or was rude to you, well to be honest I would probably be rude right back. 

Post # 7
2872 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

kick em back.

just kidding!


I probably would have done the same thing, and just scooted over as much as possible. If the child continued to kick my coat I would probably say something to the child like “oh goodness, you are kicking all over the place aren’t you.” I would say it in a very sweet motherly tone and look up at the mother when I was done addressing the child to gage her reaction.  Most likely she will see it and move the child, if she didn’t and the child continued to kick my coat I would say something to the mom. 

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