(Closed) NWR: Hiring (and firing) friends…

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
Member
1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@UpstateCait:Of course. This is a difficult place for you and DH. I would just be straight up with him. We need someone to do the job, we not particular about who it is. Thanks for the help but are hiring someone that fits the demand of our business.

Post # 4
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Have you actually paid this guy for work that he hasn’t been doing?  If not, I don’t really see the difference since he isn’t getting the money now, just the thought of possible money.

Post # 6
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree with you that I wouldn’t want to be paying someone for a job that isn’t really being done well.  That’s such a tough situation.  I don’t know how he can just walk away from that money either.

Post # 7
Member
2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Oh wow that’s a very, very difficult situation.  I can’t even imagine.

Is it possible for them to tell him that they would have to find a replacement if he doesn’t pull his act together?  Maybe since your FI is a close friend, he just is thinking he’ll understand, which is not okay, but maybe.  I would consider giving him a “we’ll fire you if you don’t start work NOW” chat first.

I know for me and FI, having the opportunity to make an extra $400 a month would be HUGE and if it were us and my FI was slacking off, I would want to know.  I don’t know if it’s appropriate, but could you mention something to your friend about it with FI’s approval?

I’m so sorry, this is very, very hard. 🙁

Post # 9
Member
2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@UpstateCait: Oh yeah, I don’t think I would feel comfortable if it were me either!  It’s really unfortunate all around.  I hope it goes well whenever your FI has to talk to him!

Post # 10
Member
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Can you have your fiance talk to his friend frankly, and say, “listen, we need someone who’ll do this job, because I’ve had to pick up all the slack.  Do you want to take six months off and then try to come back when things are more under control at home?  And I can try to find a temporary replacement?  Or do you need to step away?  I don’t want to hurt your family or damage our friendship, but this isn’t working for me.”

Maybe once things have settled down with the baby, he’ll be able to re-commit.  Good luck with all that, and keep us posted on how it all goes down.

Post # 11
Member
988 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Always a conflict on interest hiring friends and I guess you’ve learned a lesson.  I can understand you need to let him go (I prefer this term rather than “firing” as he is your friend) as he’s not complied with the agreement. I’d be polite and friendly but direct when you tell him you’ll find someone else.  In the meantime don’t speak about it with his wife and keep enjoying your friendship/engagement plans.

Post # 12
Member
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  That is such a tough situation! Could your FI talk to him one more time and say, “I know you were really excited to take on this gig. I know things have been hectic, but we really need this done. If you can’t do it, that’s fine, but I need to know. My business partner and I are thinking about hiring someone else if it’s not going to work for you.”

Post # 14
Member
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I hope he shapes up!  This situation is a tough one, I hope you guys don’t have to let him go.  I’m sure this is the kick in the pants he needed.

Post # 16
Member
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@UpstateCait: That’s great to hear! I’m glad he is actively working now,  I hope it stays that way, it would be a win/win situation for all involved.

ETA: That was a week ago, I hope he’s (Joe) kept up his end of the deal.

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