Post # 1
My FI always works on Tuesday and Wednesday nights until 11pm so I don’t see him until a little before midnight. It kind of sucks but it does give me time to study 🙂
I usually don’t get worried about being here by myself at all, but I was driving to a book store a little bit ago and saw yellow police tape on the road intersecting the street I live off of. I looked online to see what is gong on and there is a standoff (sounds like a domestic dispute according to the local news). Anyways, the road is blocked off less than 0.3 miles from my house – I walk my dog there! So now I’m totally freaked out. Logically I know that nothing will happen – it wasn’t random – it’s a domestic dispute, but my emotions get the better of me. Apparently it started around 3pm and it’s almost 10pm and it’s still going on. Apparently police and SWAT people are there (which I saw the vehicles as well when I was attempting to get to the bookstore).
It doesn’t help that literally as we were moving into our rental house last summer there was a person who worked at a bank who was abducted from her home (and she lived two houses down from us) – the 2 people who abducted her wanted her to steal money from the bank.
I live in a nice middle class neighborhood, so why does this stuff keep happening!?!
Does anyone else ever get really worried about stuff that really isn’t directly affecting them? Any advise??
Post # 3
Yuck. I hope the dispute ends quickly and quietly, for their sake and yours.
The only suggestion I have is to double check that all of your doors and windows are locked (just for peace of mind) and take a nice hot shower, or bath, to relax. That’s just what I would do.
Your FI should be home soon, and with everything sounding like it’s under control at the scene of the dispute, I wouldn’t worry too much. 🙂
Post # 4
Yeah, crazy stuff can happen anywhere I suppose. It is just good to pay attention to your gut feelings and use caution where ever you live. I wouldn’t sweat it though, as I am sure that the police know what they are doing with the domestic situation. Do something relaxing!
Post # 5
Can you go to a friend’s house or invite someone over for a glass of wine? Visit a neighbour for a late evening cup of tea? Put on your favourite girlie movie and try to take your mind off it. Your FI will be home soon and you’ll feel better.
I totally know how you feel though. FI was out of town Sunday night and I literally didn’t sleep a wink all night because I was so paranoid. Last night I downed a glass of wine and fell asleep on the couch, I was so exhausted. I hate being home alone too 🙁
I used to date a police officer, and he always had a HUGE (heavy) metal flashlight under the bed. It used to make me feel so much safer if I was at the house overnight without him. Maybe something like that would make you feel more secure? If you get bored you can make shadow puppets too 😉
Post # 6
Thank you guys! I think I’ve just been a bit overly worried in general this week. I have to go into a really underprivileged community several times a week for school, and I absolutely had to stop and get gas yesterday and I hate to say it, but I felt really uncomfortable. Everyone at the bus stop turned around and was staring at me, the cashier was behind bars and bullet proof glass – it was just something really different than I am accustomed to. The experience really made me stop and think about why I was so worried – no one did anything threatening, but I definitely didn’t feel like I fit in (although being stared at by a group of strangers was rather unnerving).
I think I’m just a little too anxious sometimes. A nice relaxing bath sounds great. Thanks for the advice!
Post # 7
the other day i posted about how my hubby and i woke up around 2:30 to police lights outside our window – didn’t think too much of it – went back to sleep. i left for work, saw the news vans parked at the end of the street and got online and saw that the store at the end of our block (literally on our block, 4 houses down) was robbed in the middle of the night and the idiot KIDS who SHOT AT THE COPS got away – but I think did get caught later that day…
still really freaked me out. all i can say is i am SO happy to have an alarm system!
sorry you’re feelin’ scared. def. a bath will help.
Post # 8
I second everything the others have said. Also, it helps to think – okay, if something were to happen, what would I do? Even thinking like, “I’ll grab my phone and call 911” is helpful, so then you can be somewhat rational if something awful were to happen, instead of panicking instantly, hopefully.
Other calming idea: go on the ‘bee. I think you have that one covered already though. 🙂