[NWR] Housemate advice needed…

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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8426 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Honeyblood:  I think the only option would be to move.  It seems like talking isn’t really getting through to this guy, so I’m not sure what else you could do.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Put on lock on his cabinet?  Keep important things in his room?  Not leave things out for Tim to have access too?  Ride the wave until he can move out?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Labels.  Buy a label maker, and label EVERYTHING with the person’s name.  The rule is “If it doesn’t have your name on it, don’t touch it.  If it has no label, it’s common use.”  So for example, the stack of toilet paper in the common bathroom is for everone, so it has no label.  The box of cereal that your fiance purchased for his own use would have his name on it, so no one gets to touch it without permission.  It’s silly that it has to come to this, but it’s the way that causes the least conflict.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Honeyblood:  Your BF may want to invest in a small refrigerator and a lockable cabinet or box to keep his own stuff in. Or you could see about buying a key lock for his door knob, and installing it yourselves. Keep the old knob to swap back to before moving out though.

My ex bf lived with a roommate that was prone to taking and eating things we had bought, even if we told him explicitly, DO NOT EAT. Well, after weeks of this and no alternative to making him stop, my ex came upon the bright idea to um, taint a jar of mayonnaise. I won’t go into details, but after roommate found out what he’d ingested, he left our stuff alone after that.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Labeling definitely helps drive a poitn acorss.  I label stuff, though that’s half because I don’t want other people eating my food, and half so I remember it’s mine to eat!

Not sure why he’s throwing out stuff though… Though if I’m honest, I’ve thrown out headbands, pens, magazines, etc. if I see they’ve been sitting there a week and I feel very frustrated with the messiness.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I second the suggestions to buy a mini-fridge and keep it in his room.  It’s also super easy to buy a new locking doorknob for a room at Home Depot or even Walmart; I’ve had to do it myself.  Just keep the old knob and replace it when moving out.

Some people have no boundaries, and you have to come up with unique solutions to keep from going crazy!  

Post # 12
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424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Sweet_Tea:  Haha!  Story please?

 

@Honeyblood:  I’m sorry, this situation is insane!  I feel so badly for you two.  In the past, I’ve found that keeping non-perishables in my closet worked for me.  It’s definitely a hassle, but it might help.  Spices are expensive, too!  Has this housemate ever lived with anyone else, before?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Honeyblood:  I have a label maker and I’m a huge fan of labeling things to the point of pure silliness. If moving is not an option, then I would go with mass lables and passive agreesive notes.

Post # 14
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1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@wideeyes:  LOL at the risk of grossing out a lot of Bees, let’s just say the jar of mayonnaise had a little ‘man-aise’ in it. Foot in Mouth

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Tim sounds like a terrible person to live with.  I’m wondering why he’s there.  Is there a shared lease that was signed?  Does Tim own the house?  I’d look into options for kicking the fella out, personally 🙂

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